The Inner Game of Getting Laid
December 31, 2011
Someone recently asked me about how to develop tight inner game. It was a good question, and caught me in just the right reflective mood. The bottom line is that inner game is one of the most important components of getting laid or becoming successful with women.
Remember, in the way you do anything.. you do everything. Your inner game is a reflection of how you shape and live your life.
Inner game at its most base level is self-mastery.. comfort in projecting yourself outwards into your environment, trusting in your abilities and your RIGHT to influence your environment.. fully internalizing the idea that any future situation you find yourself in, you will be able to maintain and control. In any social environment this is what it comes down to.. whether you’re trying to get laid or going for a promotion at work, or walking into a job interview!
If you are not controlling events in your own life, you will feel beta-ed at a very fundamental level. Set aside a certain amount of time every day to be proactive about life administration. PURSUE the things you need to get done in your life. Control your time management and life organization and you will build and grow masculine fulfillment. This is self-mastery. Solid inner game is you taking proactive “right action” e.g. executing the “next step” regardless or WHATEVER that may be.
The root of despondency and depression in people is two-fold: 1) a feeling of little or no control over themselves and their lives, and 2) thinking there’s nothing they can do about it! These two are the SOURCE of low self-esteem and poor mindsets and subsequent lack of action. Statistics say that 80% of guys will fail out of learning pickup/seduction. The average time spent is anywhere from 4-6 months and then most guys fall out.
So ask yourself, do you KNOW what to do? Do you have a plan? This is where outer game “know how” meets inner game. Most guys are simply untrained and ignorant when it comes to shaping their social environments. “Getting laid” is just another example of social mastery. So make sure you understand how everything works and get actual TRAINING in seduction and social mastery!
One of the #1 things you need to achieve proficiency or mastery in any area is a mentor/coach. I run a training program that is highly effective and extremely loved by those that take it. Go here to fill out a training request form. I can’t train everyone, but as guys graduate the program more training slots open up!
Remember you will get from your environment, and other people, exactly what you give yourself permission to take. Project. Your environment is your own. Shape it, influence it, influence those who are in it. Do you only attempt this? No. Do you show signs of self-doubt? No. How would that make sense. There are those who shape their environments, and those who react to them. Which one will you be. You have all seen and experienced what it is to take your environment for your own. Continue to choose to do so. You have the tools. You have the will. Do not take any other answer but your own.
Do not fear the future. Instead throw yourself forward into it, because when you do, you will realize you actually DO have the faculties to take care of any situation you face.. that you’re not actually “throwing” yourself into it, but just experiencing more of life. In this way, you are acting through YOUR intentions, rather than just reacting to whatever happens. This builds self-mastery
And remember.. the baseline foundation and reset to your guys’ minds and bodies, is physical exertion. You must be able to project physical control over your own bodies to feel self-mastery. If you guys are not physically exerting yourselves every day, you are committing a biological mistake. Excess bodily chemicals and hormones and mental pressure and stress stagnate inside you. Your body is your tool. Use it. Do not let it run the show because it is weak and becomes your weak link in the chain.
Practicing the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle will help you in all of this. It is the baseline you act and think from. Are you on a run and feeling fatigued? Enter the Now. Are you wondering if you should cold-approach that cute girl at the bar? Enter the Now. Are you feeling social pressure to perform? Is someone else projecting at you. Enter the Now.
That is all