What the fuck happened here!?
I and a mate met these two 21yo swedish birds at a bar on thursday, my wing was escalating hard on his girl and blew himself out.. I had more chill convo with mine, i tought her how to roll a cigarette we joked about how we could start a cigarette rolling business and I and her would be 80-20 partnets etc.. she told me i remind her of her ex-boyfriend.. i tell her she reminds me of my ex.. we keep it light.. got her FB then I left early coz i had work the next morning.. Few days later she sends me this message on Facebook.
So facts are:
1. She chased me, i pushed back on 2 meets then finally organise to see her on Sunday
2. She comes to my house for drinks at 9:30pm on a sunday night
3. She doesn't even go for the make out
I believe you're struggling with something I sometimes struggle with. I think you need to push harder with the escalation. Obviously you're not trying to push her into something she doesn't want but some women just want to be taken and overcome by masculine authority, dominance and desire. To achieve that, a guy has to risk going too far. A girl likes a guy who isn't afraid to go for what he wants, remember you can always back off and tell her that you just like her and it feels right to express yourself that way
Sounds like you didn't really set up a dynamic that was conducive to proper escalation if that makes sense. If a girl walks into your room and sees drinks out and music playing she def gets the picture but she may not be fully comfortable yet.
My advice would be:
1. Escalate immediately when you see her (hug and kiss on the cheek)
2. Set up a better hang out (pool, video games, something more "interactive')
3. Don't get butthurt or do some gay ass Mystery freeze out if she rejects your advances. Just be like "Yo, lets go on a walk" or "Anyway, blah blah blah."
I feel like it's clear from your texting, that you kept everything a bit too boring and lacked masculine polarity. Try to be a bit more bold, tell her what to do in a playful way, that push-pull homie! Like the guys were saying above you just didn't set up the right dynamic, you set up your average "chode" date.
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I like what G-money suggested about doing video games instead of setting up some elaborate "date." That's something I used to do back in college. N64 is the SHIT. Put on some Mario Kart and get some drinks going. You can escalate like a motherfucker.
What I did one time (before I got into pickup) was I played it with this sexy blonde in her apartment. We played two races, she won the 2nd (which made her a little cocky). So I told her that on a loss we had to take an article of clothing off. I was escalating on her the whole time IE cheating and throwing her controller, or pinching her. When I got her down to bra and panties I started trying to pull her panties down while she's trying to win the race. We were drinking at the time too, but now that I'm thinking back, I don't think she even realized consciously what was going on. It got to the point where we just kinda looked at each other in our underwear ... AND it just went down.
So yeah , try some of that out next time :)
I don't have an N64 anymore. Gonna have to fix that problem soon.
I like what G-money suggested about doing video games instead of setting up some elaborate "date." That's something I used to do back in college. N64 is the SHIT. Put on some Mario Kart and get some drinks going. You can escalate like a motherfucker.What I did one time (before I got into pickup) was I played it with this sexy blonde in her apartment. We played two races, she won the 2nd (which made her a little cocky). So I told her that on a loss we had to take an article of clothing off. I was escalating on her the whole time IE cheating and throwing her controller, or pinching her. When I got her down to bra and panties I started trying to pull her panties down while she's trying to win the race. We were drinking at the time too, but now that I'm thinking back, I don't think she even realized consciously what was going on. It got to the point where we just kinda looked at each other in our underwear ... AND it just went down.
So yeah , try some of that out next time :)
Hell yeah, this is perfect.