VS Girl
Met a girl 2 weekends ago at a bar. Works at Victoria's Secret and is a solid 8. It was one of those rare pickups where I wasn't even gaming. We were just in the same vicinity and drawn to each other so I opened. Held her hand a bit as we were talking. She said she had to go back to her friends. I delayed (ignored) her the first time and then the 2nd time I said "go for it." She said "it's not like that and to find her later." Saw her 10 minutes later from a distance. She waved and I waved back but didn't go after her. Then near bar close I reopened, danced with her a bit and got her number. The attraction was there but not enough comfort unfortuately. Total time of interaction was probably 10 minutes.
Below are the texts:
NAI: VIP number store with care - New and improved (that night)
VS: : ) Nice meeting last night! (the next morning)
NAI: back atcha! (that evening)
NAI: Soo... I think I might know Victoria's secret (45 hours later)
VS: What is it?? (20 hours later)
At this point because she took so long to respond I decided to just ignore her reply and cut the thread. A day later I called her around 9 PM and it rang all the way though and went to VM. I did not leave a message.
VS: Morning! hey sorry i missed your call i was sleeping. whats up? (early the next morning... like at 6 AM)
NAI: Early to bed eh? all good. What's your schedule like for the rest of the week (3 hours later)
VS: early mornings all week but open afternoons and evenings! (2 hours later)
NAI: Got it. How about we meet up Sat afternoon... 3 p? (that evening)
VS: Sounds good! (5 minutes later)
VS: Where are we meeting (15 minutes later)
NAI: [photo of cosmic bowling] plan for this... i'll pick you up (5 minutes later)
VS: Fun! I'm so down! (2 minutes later)
NAI: ; )
VS: Hey i'm leaving work early to go home and rest because i have a bad migrane. we may need to reschedule bowling : ( (4 hours before the date)
NAI: cosmic bowling isn't going anwhere... no sweat get better (45 minutes later)
VS: : ) Thanks! (10 minutes later)
So that's where I'm at now. My plan is to either get in touch with her tonight or tomorrow night by phone. I think getting her on the phone might help but my hunch is she feels more comfortable texting. Any feedback would be appreciated!!
I think she is more comfortable texting for sure.
Maybe try to plan another meet up and if you feel her about to flake or she doesn't answer your text or phone call, in a timely fashion, just act like you were going to cancel on her anyway. But don't really cancel just say that your friend is having people over and you're having drinks and what not and she's more than welcome to come over.
Use the me and her format so it makes your texts blue and pink. It's much easier to read.
As far as the texts, pretty standard flake. Re-engage with some funny shit later and try again. I would send a picture or e-card to get the ball rolling.
Thanks for the advice y'all. Was gonna text her but it looks like she took care of that. From just now... Obviously it's time to go for another meetup. In the past I would have just stuck with bowling but I read on here that you should mix up your date offers. Drinks?
Her: Hey, how are you?
Me: Hola. Gearing up for a big bball game tonight. They're bigger but we're... actually that's all I've got ; )
Her: lol you're cute! Good luck!! Let's hang soon..
Nice!
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Thanks!
Slight problem. We're meeting on Thurs for drinks. Decided to put bowling away for later. Anyway her last text was "Sounds good! No bowling : ("
What should I say?
You: ...decided to be nice and not destroy your self-esteem kicking your ass at bowling.
You don't always get what you want...;)
^^Thats a good one! lol
UPDATE 8.20
Date last Thurs went well. Drinks and a little food for about 2 hours. She was hotter than I remembered. Top 5 I've ever gone out with. I'm more used to action dates but I came on strong after I decided to sit next to her half way through the date. Some kino initiated by her. Good banter. She mentioned her ex a good amount when she was telling stories so I called her out on it. Claimed they were together for 3 years and it was the only relationship she's ever been in... She's 23... and they were childhood friends first. Also said the dude moved with her cross country but she broke it off when he wanted marriage and kids. Didn't go for the kiss at the end -- usually I do -- but there it is. She seemed to have a good time and told me to text her.
Anyway, pick up from Saturday:
Me: [name of bar where we met]-bound! Or should I say [the way she mispronunces that bar] 9:35p
Her: Haha i'm staying in tonight I have to get up at 4a tom : ( 9:40
Me: Goodness girl 9:43
Her: Work 9:45
Wasn't really trying to invite her out but rather just give some callback humor. Anyway, hit her up again today after I sent her a few pics from a hike I took and told her I had an incredible idea...
Her: [hiking location] Fun! What was your incredible idea? 3:15p
Me: Cooking an incredible vegan dinner. Pretty sure I can convert you ; ) What's the rest of your wk looking like? 4:21p
Her: Haha good for you but I think I'm stuck in my ways. Crazy busy. I leave for a camping trip on Thurs for the weekend. 4:32p
Guess I went for the invite over to my place too quickly. Should I go radio silent and just reengage next week when she gets back? Any thoughts?
You didn't go for the kiss (or anything further) on the date and now you're inviting her over for vegan...maybe she thinks you caught teh ghey
I agree with archangel. You don't believe in kissing on a first date, let alone hooking up, and now you're cooking a vegan dinner. Not exactly "inspiring" for a girl
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Not enough sexual intent. And when I say not enough, I mean none. Agree with the above posters.
By the way I'm simply pointing out the overall perception.. it obviously isn't necessarily true at all.. we all get stuck in weird perceptual traps from other people lol
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male