Sinking with time management. Anyone else BUSY as fuck and run into this issue?
Wed, 07/11/2012 - 02:25
Hey guys, just got back from an AMAZING weekend in Miami. Something that has been swirling around in my mind a lot lately. In the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. I see SOOO many ways in my life that I am not excelling it's not even funny. It seems the only place I PUSH it hard is pickup. If I see a problem I identify it and take steps to try to correct it. In other aspects of my life I just can't seem to meet my expectations. IE. At work I could study and gain a better understanding technically by reading books , analyze where I went wrong and fix different things, and a whole slew of other things. The problem I always run into is TIME. There is a lack of time to do anything. Nearly all my time goes into pickup when I get home. Be it field reports / dates / going out / MH's awesome coaching drills ;) ect. Don't have much time to begin with because I work 10 hours a day 5-6 days a week. At the same time though, other people have done it and excel with the same amount of time I have. Maybe it's more about picking what you want to excel at and accepting that you WILL fall short in other areas. Or could it be that I'm making excuses and not making the time for Q2 things that I should. At work I feel like all day at work it's a constant flow of Q1 problems all day long. If you're not aware of what I mean by Q1 and Q2 check out Stephen Covey's the 7 habits of highly effective people. To sum it up a Q1 is a task that is immediately presented to you and needs attention now. IE. You're fat after years of eating like SHIT. Q2 are tasks that would mitigate Q1 problems IE. You've eaten healthy for 20 years and have mitigated being fat and most diseases.
To get back on point here. I feel this in all aspects of my life except for pickup right now. Since I started getting more success with women and ALOT of my time is eaten by dates I've been falling short in other areas that I really love. Tonight I said fuck it to getting laid because I wanted to catch up on my FR's, read, hit the gym, and do some other things.
Another example of this would be reading. I'm lucky if I get 5 hours of reading done a week. I'm sure some of you guys have run into this. How do you deal with just having a lack of time to do the things you want to do? How do you judge when you're slipping and NOT being effective in one area(making excuses) vs choosing to invest your time in something you want more? I'm making a commitment to say fuck it to Q1 stuff for an hour a week at work to work on learning new things. This will put me hopelessly behind but in the long run I'm hoping it will make all the difference.
Any tips would be appreciated. Thanks dudes! You guys rock.
To get back on point here. I feel this in all aspects of my life except for pickup right now. Since I started getting more success with women and ALOT of my time is eaten by dates I've been falling short in other areas that I really love. Tonight I said fuck it to getting laid because I wanted to catch up on my FR's, read, hit the gym, and do some other things.
Another example of this would be reading. I'm lucky if I get 5 hours of reading done a week. I'm sure some of you guys have run into this. How do you deal with just having a lack of time to do the things you want to do? How do you judge when you're slipping and NOT being effective in one area(making excuses) vs choosing to invest your time in something you want more? I'm making a commitment to say fuck it to Q1 stuff for an hour a week at work to work on learning new things. This will put me hopelessly behind but in the long run I'm hoping it will make all the difference.
Any tips would be appreciated. Thanks dudes! You guys rock.
Wed, 07/11/2012 - 02:26
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@Steve:
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Fri, 07/13/2012 - 00:14
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un into this issue?
We'll discuss in your session but I think other guys have some good feedback for this as well. Icewahine? Linus?
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Fri, 07/13/2012 - 00:54
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Re: un into this issue?
@Manwhore:
Hah yeah I posted in the other double post thread. Copy paste here:
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I understand what you're feeling dude. And it's not a time management thing. For me it's more like a dissonance between what I rationally feel I "should" be doing versus what my emotions tell me to do.
On some level I think we're biologically hardwired to be monomaniacal. One-pointed focus. Don't have evidence to back that up, I'm not a scientist - but whenever I just accept that and trust the process it just feels like a more natural way to move through the world.
And it's cyclical. I've noticed most things in life go through cycles. In this context it means that you'll be heavily immersed in one thing, like pickup, for a period of time... before the cycle decides it's time for the next thing. That's how I accidentally learnt how to ride a unicycle during swedish december lol.
Maybe I go through a few months just being completely monomaniacal about direct marketing stuff... naturally fall off of that, start getting more into pickup... or juggling... or running... or something else... and then once I get back to marketing I'm going to have all these other different experiences that can dramatically amplify what I'm doing in that area. So it all comes together in one way or another, and that's how innovation happens.
Anyway, I'm sort of rambling. Here's what I'm trying to say: You're looking at this like you have a time management problem, as if something is wrong and needs fixing... I'm saying that maybe you should challenge that assumption, and see what happens and how you feel if you just trust in the process and allow things to happen without interference from your logical, rational self.
In terms of staying sane and getting things done during the workweek or whatever... there are a few 80/20 "productivity hacks" that can help shift things pretty quickly if you use them:
* Parkinson's law: states that the time it takes to get something done is determined by the amount of time you have available to get said thing done. In other words: set hard deadlines for shit you're trying to do. It will radically transform how much you get done. If you want to write a book, set a deadline to have your first draft ready in 30 days. Your brain will figure out a way to get it done.
* Use a calendar. Seriously. It's amazing. Most people who aren't forced to by their job don't do it. It immediately makes the things you want to do "real" in your mind (when you have specific dates and times slotted in for when to work on that) rather than vague ideas of things you maybe would like to do.
* To expand on the above point, set start and stop times for those tasks. Most people only do start times ("I will do this at 6 o' clock") but without a definite stopping time. This ties in directly to parkinson's law... as well as get rid of feelings of overwhelm.
* Work in chunks of time. See: http://www.pomodorotechnique.com/
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I don't know exactly what you're looking for... so the above is sort of a mashup of rambling brain-farts and specific tactics I've learned from being an entrepreneur. Either way, I hope some of that might be useful.
Good luck :)
Hah yeah I posted in the other double post thread. Copy paste here:
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I understand what you're feeling dude. And it's not a time management thing. For me it's more like a dissonance between what I rationally feel I "should" be doing versus what my emotions tell me to do.
On some level I think we're biologically hardwired to be monomaniacal. One-pointed focus. Don't have evidence to back that up, I'm not a scientist - but whenever I just accept that and trust the process it just feels like a more natural way to move through the world.
And it's cyclical. I've noticed most things in life go through cycles. In this context it means that you'll be heavily immersed in one thing, like pickup, for a period of time... before the cycle decides it's time for the next thing. That's how I accidentally learnt how to ride a unicycle during swedish december lol.
Maybe I go through a few months just being completely monomaniacal about direct marketing stuff... naturally fall off of that, start getting more into pickup... or juggling... or running... or something else... and then once I get back to marketing I'm going to have all these other different experiences that can dramatically amplify what I'm doing in that area. So it all comes together in one way or another, and that's how innovation happens.
Anyway, I'm sort of rambling. Here's what I'm trying to say: You're looking at this like you have a time management problem, as if something is wrong and needs fixing... I'm saying that maybe you should challenge that assumption, and see what happens and how you feel if you just trust in the process and allow things to happen without interference from your logical, rational self.
In terms of staying sane and getting things done during the workweek or whatever... there are a few 80/20 "productivity hacks" that can help shift things pretty quickly if you use them:
* Parkinson's law: states that the time it takes to get something done is determined by the amount of time you have available to get said thing done. In other words: set hard deadlines for shit you're trying to do. It will radically transform how much you get done. If you want to write a book, set a deadline to have your first draft ready in 30 days. Your brain will figure out a way to get it done.
* Use a calendar. Seriously. It's amazing. Most people who aren't forced to by their job don't do it. It immediately makes the things you want to do "real" in your mind (when you have specific dates and times slotted in for when to work on that) rather than vague ideas of things you maybe would like to do.
* To expand on the above point, set start and stop times for those tasks. Most people only do start times ("I will do this at 6 o' clock") but without a definite stopping time. This ties in directly to parkinson's law... as well as get rid of feelings of overwhelm.
* Work in chunks of time. See: http://www.pomodorotechnique.com/
...
I don't know exactly what you're looking for... so the above is sort of a mashup of rambling brain-farts and specific tactics I've learned from being an entrepreneur. Either way, I hope some of that might be useful.
Good luck :)