Question About Missing Approaches
Wed, 07/11/2012 - 08:56
Okay, so I just discussed this in my latest field report and it's something that is just sorta bugging me... like not HUGE... just kinda leaves me with that SLIGHT sense of regret at the end of the night- which I FUCKING HATE. Like I HATE having regrets... it's the worst. It sucks. It's horrible... becuase it's stuff you could have controlled, it's stuff that you just didn't do, even though you're entirely capable of doing it.
I was just texting falc about this and what really gets to me is like this feeling I have tonight where I get home and I don't feel like I stepped up to every stunner I saw and the ones I did step up to, I didn't go as hard as I could have.. I'm probably just being too hard on myself, but I can't deny that it does bug me.
I meditate every day, I work out, I eat super healthy, I go out 7 nights a week, completely alone and sober, I take fish oil pills (like a BAUS) ... it's just like idk, it's just irritating... Like I don't want to feel like this again... I just hate it.
On the whole- shits amazing right now- better than it's ever been before, but tonight I didn't go 100%, really, for the first time since I started my challenge and it bugs me.
Like I don't care if they open, I just want to be able to go home at the end of the night and tell myself, that I stepped up to all the girls I wanted to step up to and I did so, with 100% effort.
Okay so the weird part about this- I have ZERO approach anxiety... Like I get to the venue and I feel COPMLETELY relaxed... But then I just like, won't approach... I don't feel nervous... I just won't do the approach. lmao, and this isn't me doing ZERO approaches- I still do a fuckton of approaches and have good interactions- it's more that I'm just noticing the 3-4 approaches that I didn't do... mainly because these are the girls, which, in reality, I REALLY wanted... the REALLY hot ones- the true STUNNERS.... I still approach stunners, like absolute fucking HOTTIES... I approach them a lot but it just bugs me, the times when I DON'T do it- or, more commonly, when I do it but I don't go hard and I don't focus on the fundamentals while doing it... it's like I've already given up before I even finish my approach. It's weak.
I'm not quite sure what's up with it but if anyone else has gone through this or knows what I'm talking about, I'd love some feedback.
I def. have the BIG picture in mind though, and I recognize that no individual night matters, as long as I'm going through the process and making an effort to try harder each night and learn from my mistakes...
I was just texting falc about this and what really gets to me is like this feeling I have tonight where I get home and I don't feel like I stepped up to every stunner I saw and the ones I did step up to, I didn't go as hard as I could have.. I'm probably just being too hard on myself, but I can't deny that it does bug me.
I meditate every day, I work out, I eat super healthy, I go out 7 nights a week, completely alone and sober, I take fish oil pills (like a BAUS) ... it's just like idk, it's just irritating... Like I don't want to feel like this again... I just hate it.
On the whole- shits amazing right now- better than it's ever been before, but tonight I didn't go 100%, really, for the first time since I started my challenge and it bugs me.
Like I don't care if they open, I just want to be able to go home at the end of the night and tell myself, that I stepped up to all the girls I wanted to step up to and I did so, with 100% effort.
Okay so the weird part about this- I have ZERO approach anxiety... Like I get to the venue and I feel COPMLETELY relaxed... But then I just like, won't approach... I don't feel nervous... I just won't do the approach. lmao, and this isn't me doing ZERO approaches- I still do a fuckton of approaches and have good interactions- it's more that I'm just noticing the 3-4 approaches that I didn't do... mainly because these are the girls, which, in reality, I REALLY wanted... the REALLY hot ones- the true STUNNERS.... I still approach stunners, like absolute fucking HOTTIES... I approach them a lot but it just bugs me, the times when I DON'T do it- or, more commonly, when I do it but I don't go hard and I don't focus on the fundamentals while doing it... it's like I've already given up before I even finish my approach. It's weak.
I'm not quite sure what's up with it but if anyone else has gone through this or knows what I'm talking about, I'd love some feedback.
I def. have the BIG picture in mind though, and I recognize that no individual night matters, as long as I'm going through the process and making an effort to try harder each night and learn from my mistakes...
Wed, 07/11/2012 - 09:39
#1
Re: Question About Missing Approaches
@buddhagames:
jesus. There really is NOTHING worse than trying to fall asleep, KNOWING you didn't step up to the girl you wanted.
This will NOT happen again for a while. I can promise myself that.
It's not an excuse if she is talkign with another dude. It's not an excuse if she's at the bar in an awkard position and there are like 4 dudes surrounding her... none of that matters. When you want something bad enough, everything drops away and all that's left is you and your goal.
I don't expect myself to be perfect but I can make my best effort at all times. I'm not super upset, just trying to be firm with myself and let myself know that, while I'm not mad, I'm dissapointed and expect more from myself. I know what I can do, so it's really tough to be okay with anything less than that.
jesus. There really is NOTHING worse than trying to fall asleep, KNOWING you didn't step up to the girl you wanted.
This will NOT happen again for a while. I can promise myself that.
It's not an excuse if she is talkign with another dude. It's not an excuse if she's at the bar in an awkard position and there are like 4 dudes surrounding her... none of that matters. When you want something bad enough, everything drops away and all that's left is you and your goal.
I don't expect myself to be perfect but I can make my best effort at all times. I'm not super upset, just trying to be firm with myself and let myself know that, while I'm not mad, I'm dissapointed and expect more from myself. I know what I can do, so it's really tough to be okay with anything less than that.
Wed, 07/11/2012 - 23:47
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Re: Question About Missing Approaches
@buddhagames:
Dude I'm reading Tony Robbins 'Awaken the Giant within' at the moment, If you read that book and pay attention especially to the part on using questions to solve problems, you'll plow through this. And any other problems you encounter.
Extract from the chapter: "Questions are the laser of human consciousness. They concentrate our focus and determine what we feel and do."
Kdizzle
Dude I'm reading Tony Robbins 'Awaken the Giant within' at the moment, If you read that book and pay attention especially to the part on using questions to solve problems, you'll plow through this. And any other problems you encounter.
Extract from the chapter: "Questions are the laser of human consciousness. They concentrate our focus and determine what we feel and do."
Kdizzle
Thu, 07/12/2012 - 04:21
#3
Re: Question About Missing Approaches
@buddhagames:
Yep.
Gotta get them in. Walk in there like a ninja and get in on that girl. Sometimes you end up fucking them. feelsgoodman.jpg
Yep.
Gotta get them in. Walk in there like a ninja and get in on that girl. Sometimes you end up fucking them. feelsgoodman.jpg
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Thu, 07/12/2012 - 04:38
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Re: Question About Missing Approaches
@Manwhore:
Yeah... that's why I was SO HAPPY with my effort today... I really took last night to heart and bounced back with one of my better sessions of my entire challenge.
Now it's time to head out and do it again at night... geeesus #12hourgamingsessionsaregoodforthesoul
Like literally, every time I I hesitated with an approach, I was chasing girls the fuck down, like a god damn sniper going after his kill... Some of these were my best sets.
lmao- opened up a 2 set of chicks who were eating their god damn dinner at an outdoors restaurant... lol, sure, I didn't rsvp but looks like they had room for a +1 afterall... but I passed on the breadsticks (no carb diet) ; )
Yeah... that's why I was SO HAPPY with my effort today... I really took last night to heart and bounced back with one of my better sessions of my entire challenge.
Now it's time to head out and do it again at night... geeesus #12hourgamingsessionsaregoodforthesoul
Like literally, every time I I hesitated with an approach, I was chasing girls the fuck down, like a god damn sniper going after his kill... Some of these were my best sets.
lmao- opened up a 2 set of chicks who were eating their god damn dinner at an outdoors restaurant... lol, sure, I didn't rsvp but looks like they had room for a +1 afterall... but I passed on the breadsticks (no carb diet) ; )
Thu, 07/12/2012 - 05:16
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Re: Question About Missing Approaches
@buddhagames:
Yo- so I was just thinking and like does anyone else get the feeling that whenever they do a super direct approach, they are just like, idk, being a super nice guy...
Like even when girls reject me, I'll get in front of them and just be like, "Well, that's cool, but really- you should know, you're beautiful" and like even girls who reject me, can't help but smile at this....
I feel like I'm really just adding a little piece of value to a girls day whenever I do an approach... Like they probably feel pretty good on their walk/trainride home and that's cool. Like idk, I'm not the dude whose gonna tell a girl to die of cancer and kill herself, even after she rejects me... idk... I guess I just sorta understand why I'm rejected, when I am, so the least I can do is let her know I'm serious and that she should feel good about herself.
Yo- so I was just thinking and like does anyone else get the feeling that whenever they do a super direct approach, they are just like, idk, being a super nice guy...
Like even when girls reject me, I'll get in front of them and just be like, "Well, that's cool, but really- you should know, you're beautiful" and like even girls who reject me, can't help but smile at this....
I feel like I'm really just adding a little piece of value to a girls day whenever I do an approach... Like they probably feel pretty good on their walk/trainride home and that's cool. Like idk, I'm not the dude whose gonna tell a girl to die of cancer and kill herself, even after she rejects me... idk... I guess I just sorta understand why I'm rejected, when I am, so the least I can do is let her know I'm serious and that she should feel good about herself.