Natural push-pull and keeping sexual tension high
I went on an amazing tinder date a few nights ago. This is was probably one of the best connections I have ever had on a first date, everything about her was sexy in a unique way and we were practically finishing each other's sentences. It was a dinner date, which I don't prefer, but it just worked out that way. I started the date with a kiss on the cheek as always and boom we had a nice sexy vibe while we were talking at dinner for 2 hours. Naturally, things started to lose excitement due to the fact that we were sitting for 2 hours. I told her to buy me ice cream so we hopped in the car and did that but it felt like the vibe dwindled because we had too much of each other. We did not really gain our momentum back until the end of the night when logistics were just not there to have an awesome sexual experience. We made out a little bit before we went on our ways, and I felt like it was lacking excitement and I came off a little too strong about getting back together.
I was dissapointed afterwards because it was clear that the potential was there for a mind blowing experience but things didn't go down sexually like they should have. The date was great, but I wanted to move to a deeper place. The romance to all of it was something I have never felt before. Can anyone speak on how I could have (could in the future) avoid hitting this wall where the excitement dies. It felt like we needed a 15 minute break from each other hahaha. I don't know if there was anything I could have done other than seperating myself for a breather.
The night concluded just fine but I shot her a brief text saying "you are awesome, I had a great time with you :)" and she never got back to me. It is very clear to me now that towards the end of the night (and that text) was a bit overcompensating because I was really disappointed that things didn't go the way I saw it going in my head. I'll probably get her out again after I let things cool off, but I just don't want to make the same mistake again with her or any other girls.
It was completely different game than I was used to. We texted for 4 days straight on and off before we met up and I think that was part of the reason we felt tired of each other!
Hey man glad you made a great connection with a girl!
Just my two cents;
You need to be a man with a plan. Why are you going out with girls when you don't have logistics covered beforehand? You should always be leading an interaction, never let it go on and on for 2 hours until it dies out. It souldn't die out! You're having a good time? GOOD. Now escalate. That worked? GOOD. Take her to your car and get her home and fuck. OR go in the bathroom and fuck lol.
Txt was not overcompensation...it was bland and to top it off....you didn't give her what you both wanted. Your dick in her mouth.
Hope that makes sense and MW can definitely shed better light on it.
Your totally right. Logistics were tough because she wouldn't let me pick her up. The ice cream move involved getting her to drop her car off, but by the time it happened things died out and we were limited on time. I was on the right path but it I guess I needed that final stretch of leadership. I'm bummed because she was probably hoping we banged in the car. We stayed at dinner too long as well.I got ahead of myself and wanted something special out of it all, but making things sexual is the #1 priority for establishing something real.
yes that text is just plain boring, she's a writer for god sakes she must fuckin hate me after that one lol
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Its always like a breathe of fresh air when I hear that from you. It most certaintly did not suck, but it was not good. I very aware of what happened now.
Me: so how many pileups did you cause during yesterdays treahcerous snow storm (pondering face emoji)
Her: none at all Daisy got to me to and form where I needed to be as safely as a montronly crosswalker at an elemntary school :)
Me: thank gawd
Me; I made it through my tougest exams this week
Me: now my roommate and I are making a christmas song :)
Her: congrays, now party my friend! and ooooo sounds wonderful whats it about? :)
Me: (I explain the contest and how amazing it sounds)
Her: "sick of eating the shit food of this damn place, cant wait to go h
Her: N, NO MORE RAMEN" :) :) well good luck hope he wins haha
Her: ome and lick gravy off of mamas baked ham" chorus of "NO MORE RAME
Me: hahaha :) spot on
Me: you weirdo licking gravy off of ham
Me: use a fork!
Her: I am a lady, no gravy licking for me (oh lord keep the sexual innu
Her: elf into your guys near desperate need for home cooked meals :)
Her: endos to yourself about that statement:)) I was simply putting mys
Me: so your texts are jumbled again
Me: tough to read but I know you want to lcik gravy off of me :P
Me "chorus" okay we nailed the chors
This is lacking the man-woman vibe. I should have called her out on her jumbled texts earlier, stirred the pot a bit to cause some some playful tension. Plus, I actually framed the sexual undertone as If I wasn't welcoming it, not good!