My part on the Teleconference #3
Hey Guys just wanted to say Thanks for this good idea of having guys share their experience on many topics in which it helps beginners like me improve day by day.
Certain thing i wanted to really talk about was my topic with the girls number i got from my local college. So pretty much let me backtrack and give you the spill once again. Met this girl at my job (Work at a Gym) talked real quick because of her having a short schedule. Well i didnt see her until 2 months later and decided to apporach her at school and we got to talking and after a quick chat i asked her if she wanted to have some ice cream with me like 2 days later. She said yes and i got her number. First hangout we just talked about school, work , and how her nightlife is and we madeout. So now its been 4th time hanging with her and i cant seem to get sexual with her. I tried laying my hands on her butt but she got all crazy saying "thats disrepectful blah blah." So i wasnt sure how to really get sexual with her? My plan for now was next makeout try rubbing her legs and slowy taking off her coat then exceed from there. Any help here?
If you find yourself going too far and she puts on the brakes just back off a bit and most importantly don't react. If she freaks and you act guilty in any way you communicate all the wrong things. You want to stay chill, in the moment, and definitely let her know that you heard her and intend to respect her but you are also driven by your own desire for her. Neither of you are likely to want a relationship with no sexuality, its up to you to tune in to her desire and introduce it in a way that feels good for her, safe. For example, If you grab for the ass a bit too forcefully or unexpectedly and she freaks out a bit, maybe reach up and hug her, loosen your grip so she feels like she can get out, lean back a bit and let her pull away if she wants to, and maybe say "I could never disrespect you, I do respect you" hold eye contact so she can see that you mean it and go back in (ps. mean it) The next time you reach for her ass, just start at her back, hips, or lower thighs and run your hands slowly back there so she isn't taken by surprise. But yeh, you have the right idea by changing it up ie. taking off the coat etc. don't just be chasing her around trying to grab-ass lol
Haha some good shit jack! Yea its been awhile since I have ran into girls like this who seem not like guys who grab their ass. Usually other girls dont mind and are way easier to escalate on!
It's a sad reality, but you simply needed to escalate more the first hangout. I'm not saying this is a lost cause, but this is probably why your having issues, your sexual dominace was not set from the beginning. You have to expand your reality, and start gettin used to rapid sexual escalation. You just gotta go for it. I was in a similar situation about 6 months ago, and boom I started getting blow jobs on the first and second date, and soon it will be lays on the first date.
Don't stress about it. If things don't work with this chick, move on and set the right dynamic from the get go.
Good point. I seem to not be able to get the lay on the first hangout but for sure it does come. I feel it takes girls longer to trust me with that stuff maybe its my issue on my end. But how do I handle this as I just wanna fuck with no strings attached because when she said she needs to "trust me" Seems like she forcing me into relationship right after
Good point. I seem to not be able to get the lay on the first hangout but for sure it does come. I feel it takes girls longer to trust me with that stuff maybe its my issue on my end. But how do I handle this as I just wanna fuck with no strings attached because when she said she needs to "trust me" Seems like she forcing me into relationship right after
This is interesting and I should have chimed in on the call during your segment. I'm in college too and really experienced as far as social circle game.
First of all, you should start approaching more girls. Cast a wide net. Don't even go direct if you don't feel comfortable. Ask what their major is like MW suggested or directions to a building. It doesn't matter. Then just segway into normal conversation. Get the number with the "ice cream" method lol. Basically, you need to be getting more girls out on first dates to get comfortable escalating. You just need experience. This is the only way to truly adopt a mindset. There will always be some hesitancy on your part because it's an unknown for you right now.
Picture this: You're dipping your feet in cold water and quickly pulling them out because it's cold (rejection). You need to keep going, deeper and deeper until you're completely SUBMERGED and COMFORTABLE.
Don't worry about being forced into relationships yet. Chicks are more concerned with that after you fuck them really good. On the first date ;)
Maybe it's an issue on your end? Lol. Of course it is
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I feel it takes girls longer to trust me with that stuff maybe its my issue on my end
Dude...read this sentence until you figure out how stupid it really is. Your answer is right here
Thanks guys going to work on this stuff!
I think the best advice you got on that call was to just get out there and grind away. I think it was Socrates that once said: Discomfort is the product of unfamiliarity ;) the fact that its your fault is a very good thing, it means you can do something about it. Keep leaning into it, you're good