I'm confused about Authority
I read manwhore's article on rsd about being bossy/daddy. then I read principles 101 by manhood academy. I'm confused.
These points confuse me, like at which point should you project your authority ?
I know some might say do it from the very first beginning. Isn't it socially weird to start making decisions for strangers ?
e.g. There was this hot chick I had a 1min talk with one day earlier. She was supposed to help me with something. So I go in , take off my jacket and try to hand it over and I'm like "hold it for 2mins and I'll be back" and she refuses. I try repeating in a calm matter, "just two minutes and I'll be back" and she still refuses.
one could say that I wasn't bossy enough or it was the wrong timing. or perhaps it was all good and I should've calibrated after the fact. keep reading,
there's this old article by Tyler, arguing that girls are the real selectors, they choose men they want to sleep with.
so what I'm saying is that I will project my authority over some one who's ASKING for it. ( alpha or chode ? )
e.g. This chick, I asked her to do a few things and she was not complying. I didn't care so it was all good. Then something came up that I considered she should do it at this time no questions asked but again she didn't. So I confronted her , "look if you are not going to do ε for me , then obviously you're not gonna do x, y or z ! Either you do it or you're out." I treated it very seriously like it was a business deal. Like it's written in Principles 101 , first she protested, then she started to act like a victim and finally she gave in. And after that, she got more attracted, I guess.
Later with this same chick, she told me that she smokes sometimes, I tell her she can't smoke. If she still feels the urge to smoke, she can smoke mj. The next day, she tells me out of blue that she just had a smoke before she came here. In my mind I'm like WTF bitch, I told you not to smoke last night, and now that you did, why would you even tell me that ? Was she asking out loud to be disciplined ? I've made myself clear on this but I respect her as a human being too. She can make her own choices. I ask her friend if they really had a smoke and she says yes and they laugh a little. I drop the subject, like I've forgotten it already.
They don't owe me anything right ? So I shouldn't give a damn about it. But the fact that I've already stated that she can't smoke, makes it look like she's playing with my boundaries.
I disciplined her once, do I really have to discipline her over and over and over again ? Wouldn't I sound like her mom ? I mean the alpha male has to say it only once, and it has to be obeyed , that's how it plays in my mind.
Or like when I asked her to do ε for me , when I persisted on that , it looks like I wanted something from her [ which I didn't , I was just showing her she should not play games with me ]. but it still seems needy to me, I should not want anything from her , right ?
Disciplining women doesn't work. You can be authoritative without doing that. Praise works much better.
You taste amazing > you can't smoke
Authority is not making people hold your coat, or telling them they can't smoke, that's being a douchebag.
You project dominance in by leading conversations (i.e giving the awkward people around you something to talk about), making difficult decisions (i.e telling your group of friends, or a chick where to go and party), playfully projecting your reality (i.e "I only hook up with girls that make a good sandwhich), if you get my drift...
It's not about people listening to you due to fear or intimidation, it's people listening to you because your likable and make situations fun, easy, convenient, and calm
Disciplining women doesn't work. You can be authoritative without doing that. Praise works much better.You taste amazing > you can't smoke
That could be true.
But in that situation , that I said she can't smoke and she brought it up like that, did I react the right way ? Or was I a chode ?
Maybe it would help to think of it as Value vs. Compliance: if being in your company or 'awesomesphere' as I like to call it makes the girl feel good, safe, protected then she wants to be there. If you make it clear that there are certain behaviours you don't allow around you eg. smoking, then she's probably going to feel inclined to comply to a certain point. If you're the kind of guy who's going to throw a fit if the girl refuses to hold your coat then your 'sphere' probably isn't that awesome and she wont feel like doing it. If, however, you make it funny and call her the cutest little coat rack you've ever seen she'll probably think its fun and cute and it increases the awesomeness if your sphere and in turn the likelihood of her compliance. Women are hard-wired to respond to dominance, but its better to be controlled and coming from a place of value.
Authority is not making people hold your coat, or telling them they can't smoke, that's being a douchebag.You project dominance in by leading conversations (i.e giving the awkward people around you something to talk about), making difficult decisions (i.e telling your group of friends, or a chick where to go and party), playfully projecting your reality (i.e "I only hook up with girls that make a good sandwhich), if you get my drift...
It's not about people listening to you due to fear or intimidation, it's people listening to you because your likable and make situations fun, easy, convenient, and calm
I think you're just as confused as I am.
Look, if the girls likes you, she'll do anything for you. Holding a coat or not smoking aint shit. They'd let you put it anywhere just to satisfy you. That's their NATURE.
He's not confused at all. Lol. He's nailing it, but I've asked him not to explain further as it's proprietary
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Maybe it would help to think of it as Value vs. Compliance: if being in your company or 'awesomesphere' as I like to call it makes the girl feel good, safe, protected then she wants to be there. If you make it clear that there are certain behaviours you don't allow around you eg. smoking, then she's probably going to feel inclined to comply to a certain point. If you're the kind of guy who's going to throw a fit if the girl refuses to hold your coat then your 'sphere' probably isn't that awesome and she wont feel like doing it. If, however, you make it funny and call her the cutest little coat rack you've ever seen she'll probably think its fun and cute and it increases the awesomeness if your sphere and in turn the likelihood of her compliance. Women are hard-wired to respond to dominance, but its better to be controlled and coming from a place of value.
Bro, you don't get it either. I'm not throwing a fit. All I'm saying is , maybe I should start throwing a fit. I described 3 situations , 2 of them I ignored what just happened. in 1 of them I decided it was too much and confronted the girl. It worked. She became 100% compliant. She did EVERYTHING I asked her later, no questions asked. My only regret , it was over text, had I been there I'd have her beg me for the sex.
I quote from the book
How To Handle Bitch Behavior
Bitch: [I’ve been dating a girl for a few months and because I’m
exercising my authority over her, she’s now emotionally invested
in me. I’m supposed to go see her tonight. A few hours before I’m
supposed to stop by, she sends me a text message.] Can you come
over tomorrow instead of tonight? I’m going to go out with my friend
for her birthday. [She introduces a competing expectation and tries to
justify it.]
Mr. Balls: [I text her back] Don’t
act like a bitch. [I punish her by
rejecting and scolding her.] Make
sure you cancel ahead of time.
Don’t tell me today. [I tell her what
I expect, making sure not to justify
my expectation—at least until she
acknowledges my authority.]
Bitch: Why are you being such a dick? [She punishes me by also rejecting and scolding me, but in a
more passive and complaining manner.]Why can’t you just relax and
realize not everything revolves around you? [She employs
mischaracterization.]
Mr. Balls: I told you to stop
acting like a bitch. [Same
punishment.]
Bitch: Ugh. I’m not. This is an
important thing for my friend,
so I’m going to go. I’ll see you
tomorrow. Don’t worry about it.
[Punishing me by disagreeing and
ignoring my expectation.]
Mr. Balls: Stop acting like a bitch.
[Same punishment.]
Bitch: Why are you doing this? [She’s punishing me by trying to guilt
me now. She’s gone from aggressive rejection to passive victim.]
Mr. Balls: I said, stop acting like a bitch. [Same punishment.]
Bitch: What did I do? [Mischaracterizing me as a bully.]
Mr. Balls: I just
told you. Now stop
acting like a bitch.
[Same punishment.]
Bitch: Why are you
being so mean?
Why can’t you just
be supportive?
[More passive
attempts to guilt
me into meeting her
expectations.]
Mr. Balls: Stop.
Acting. Like. A.
Bitch. [Same punishment.]
Bitch: Can you please be nice? [Repeat guilting. Mischaracterization.]
Mr. Balls: Stop acting like a bitch. [Same punishment.]
Bitch: I’m not. I told you she has a birthday party. What are you mad
about? [Mischaracterization.]
Mr. Balls: Stop acting like a bitch. [Different punishment. Just
kidding. Same punishment.]
Bitch: I hate it when you act like this. [Punishing with rejection.]
Mr. Balls: Don’t act like a bitch. [zzzzzzzzzz.]
Bitch: How am I being a bitch?
Bitch: If I am, I don’t mean to be. [She’s just starting to try to meet
my expectation.]
Mr. Balls: You are being a total cunt. Don’t ever act like a cunt again.
[Same punishment. More intense. Almost to the Promised Land.]
Bitch: I’m sorry!!! [She tries to meet my expectation a little more.]
Mr. Balls: Next time you do something like that, you can take your
ass out the door. If you make plans with me, you keep them. I’m
more important than your friend. [I still scold her. But now I’m also
rewarding her with a justification of my expectation since she’s trying
to meet it.]
Bitch: I know I’m sorry. I just wanted to be there for her birthday. I
should have told you sooner. I’m sorry!! [Submitting more.]
Mr. Balls: Just don’t let it happen again. I don’t want you acting like
all these other bitches and skanks out there that have no respect for
their men. Guys hate those type of bitches. [Scolding with negative
association to reinforce that she should never violate my authority
again.]
Bitch: I’m sorry. I will call you in a little bit ok? [Submitting more.]
Mr. Balls: I love you, babe. But not when you act like a bitch. Go back
to acting sweet. [Rewarding her for submitting.]
Bitch: I will promise! And I’ll make it up
to you. I will leave early and meet up
with you. [Trying to meet my expectation
now.]
Mr. Balls: No you won’t. I’ll be over
at 7 like I planned. [Punishing her by
disagreeing since she’s not exactly
meeting it but only making a concession
about it. She’s still trying to compromise my expectation.]
Bitch: I can’t. I told her I would be there. [Punishing by disagreeing.]
Mr. Balls: I didn’t ask what you told her. I just told you I’m coming
over at 7pm. Be ready. [Punishing her by scolding. Giving her my
expectation.]
Bitch: Okay *sad face* [Technically
she’s agreeing. But she’s also trying
to punish me by trying to make
me feel guilty. This violates my
expectations.]
Mr. Balls: [I call her on the phone
and scold her for her attitude.] I
expect you to be happy to hang out
with me. Don’t give me that bullshit
sad smiley face. You better fucking
message me with happy smiley faces
from now on, or don’t message me
at all. [Punishing her with scolding and rejection.]
Bitch: I’m sorry babe. I am. *crying* [Submitting.]
Mr. Balls: That’s my baby. I’m going to hang out with you for maybe a
little while, and if you’re being good, you can go to the birthday party
after. [Rewarding her for finally fully meeting my expectation.]
Bitch: I’m sorry for being a bitch. I love you, Mr. Balls [Rewarding me
with love and praise.]
Mr. Balls: I love you too. [Rewarding her with the same.]
He's not confused at all. Lol. He's nailing it, but I've asked him not to explain further as it's proprietary
what :/
Look , I'm giving the girl a great advice. I have her best interest at heart. She refuses to accept it , and even tells me so.
What should I do ? Just ignore it ( Like I did in the real example ) or should I punish her.
Sorry , but I still don't get it.
Brilliant. The only problem I see here is I also like to date girls who don't have low self esteem or daddy issues ;)
Okay. The dynamic of authority your explaining CAN get you women, but you will only attract the weakest of the weak. If your like insecure chicks that enjoy abuse go for it. Also, this attitude will not fly with other dudes. You know whats worse than a quiet chode? a bossy one.
Jack.Ruby wrote:
Maybe it would help to think of it as Value vs. Compliance: if being in your company or 'awesomesphere' as I like to call it makes the girl feel good, safe, protected then she wants to be there. If you make it clear that there are certain behaviours you don't allow around you eg. smoking, then she's probably going to feel inclined to comply to a certain point. If you're the kind of guy who's going to throw a fit if the girl refuses to hold your coat then your 'sphere' probably isn't that awesome and she wont feel like doing it. If, however, you make it funny and call her the cutest little coat rack you've ever seen she'll probably think its fun and cute and it increases the awesomeness if your sphere and in turn the likelihood of her compliance. Women are hard-wired to respond to dominance, but its better to be controlled and coming from a place of value.Bro, you don't get it either. I'm not throwing a fit. All I'm saying is , maybe I should start throwing a fit. I described 3 situations , 2 of them I ignored what just happened. in 1 of them I decided it was too much and confronted the girl. It worked. She became 100% compliant. She did EVERYTHING I asked her later, no questions asked. My only regret , it was over text, had I been there I'd have her beg me for the sex.
I quote from the book
How To Handle Bitch Behavior
Bitch: [I’ve been dating a girl for a few months and because I’m
exercising my authority over her, she’s now emotionally invested
in me. I’m supposed to go see her tonight. A few hours before I’m
supposed to stop by, she sends me a text message.] Can you come
over tomorrow instead of tonight? I’m going to go out with my friend
for her birthday. [She introduces a competing expectation and tries to
justify it.]
Mr. Balls: [I text her back] Don’t
act like a bitch. [I punish her by
rejecting and scolding her.] Make
sure you cancel ahead of time.
Don’t tell me today. [I tell her what
I expect, making sure not to justify
my expectation—at least until she
acknowledges my authority.]
Bitch: Why are you being such a dick? [She punishes me by also rejecting and scolding me, but in a
more passive and complaining manner.]Why can’t you just relax and
realize not everything revolves around you? [She employs
mischaracterization.]
Mr. Balls: I told you to stop
acting like a bitch. [Same
punishment.]
Bitch: Ugh. I’m not. This is an
important thing for my friend,
so I’m going to go. I’ll see you
tomorrow. Don’t worry about it.
[Punishing me by disagreeing and
ignoring my expectation.]
Mr. Balls: Stop acting like a bitch.
[Same punishment.]
Bitch: Why are you doing this? [She’s punishing me by trying to guilt
me now. She’s gone from aggressive rejection to passive victim.]
Mr. Balls: I said, stop acting like a bitch. [Same punishment.]
Bitch: What did I do? [Mischaracterizing me as a bully.]
Mr. Balls: I just
told you. Now stop
acting like a bitch.
[Same punishment.]
Bitch: Why are you
being so mean?
Why can’t you just
be supportive?
[More passive
attempts to guilt
me into meeting her
expectations.]
Mr. Balls: Stop.
Acting. Like. A.
Bitch. [Same punishment.]
Bitch: Can you please be nice? [Repeat guilting. Mischaracterization.]
Mr. Balls: Stop acting like a bitch. [Same punishment.]
Bitch: I’m not. I told you she has a birthday party. What are you mad
about? [Mischaracterization.]
Mr. Balls: Stop acting like a bitch. [Different punishment. Just
kidding. Same punishment.]
Bitch: I hate it when you act like this. [Punishing with rejection.]
Mr. Balls: Don’t act like a bitch. [zzzzzzzzzz.]
Bitch: How am I being a bitch?
Bitch: If I am, I don’t mean to be. [She’s just starting to try to meet
my expectation.]
Mr. Balls: You are being a total cunt. Don’t ever act like a cunt again.
[Same punishment. More intense. Almost to the Promised Land.]
Bitch: I’m sorry!!! [She tries to meet my expectation a little more.]
Mr. Balls: Next time you do something like that, you can take your
ass out the door. If you make plans with me, you keep them. I’m
more important than your friend. [I still scold her. But now I’m also
rewarding her with a justification of my expectation since she’s trying
to meet it.]
Bitch: I know I’m sorry. I just wanted to be there for her birthday. I
should have told you sooner. I’m sorry!! [Submitting more.]
Mr. Balls: Just don’t let it happen again. I don’t want you acting like
all these other bitches and skanks out there that have no respect for
their men. Guys hate those type of bitches. [Scolding with negative
association to reinforce that she should never violate my authority
again.]
Bitch: I’m sorry. I will call you in a little bit ok? [Submitting more.]
Mr. Balls: I love you, babe. But not when you act like a bitch. Go back
to acting sweet. [Rewarding her for submitting.]
Bitch: I will promise! And I’ll make it up
to you. I will leave early and meet up
with you. [Trying to meet my expectation
now.]
Mr. Balls: No you won’t. I’ll be over
at 7 like I planned. [Punishing her by
disagreeing since she’s not exactly
meeting it but only making a concession
about it. She’s still trying to compromise my expectation.]
Bitch: I can’t. I told her I would be there. [Punishing by disagreeing.]
Mr. Balls: I didn’t ask what you told her. I just told you I’m coming
over at 7pm. Be ready. [Punishing her by scolding. Giving her my
expectation.]
Bitch: Okay *sad face* [Technically
she’s agreeing. But she’s also trying
to punish me by trying to make
me feel guilty. This violates my
expectations.]
Mr. Balls: [I call her on the phone
and scold her for her attitude.] I
expect you to be happy to hang out
with me. Don’t give me that bullshit
sad smiley face. You better fucking
message me with happy smiley faces
from now on, or don’t message me
at all. [Punishing her with scolding and rejection.]
Bitch: I’m sorry babe. I am. *crying* [Submitting.]
Mr. Balls: That’s my baby. I’m going to hang out with you for maybe a
little while, and if you’re being good, you can go to the birthday party
after. [Rewarding her for finally fully meeting my expectation.]
Bitch: I’m sorry for being a bitch. I love you, Mr. Balls [Rewarding me
with love and praise.]
Mr. Balls: I love you too. [Rewarding her with the same.]
Lol
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Brilliant. The only problem I see here is I also like to date girls who don't have low self esteem or daddy issues ;)
Okay. The dynamic of authority your explaining CAN get you women, but you will only attract the weakest of the weak. If your like insecure chicks that enjoy abuse go for it. Also, this attitude will not fly with other dudes. You know whats worse than a quiet chode? a bossy one.
so this is how I should act. I give the advice if it's neccessary. and it should not matter whether she accepts it or not. right ?
I can only act like that if she decides to play with my OWN boundaries ... I think I've heard that from manwhore himself
Ok if you're ready to listen, NOW go back and read their responses..
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
It's about laying down the law in terms of what you expect around you. You don't give a fuck if she follows it or not, if she wants to be a part of your life she has to follow it. You are unattached. Most people have only a vague idea of what they're really about and because their own boundaries are so blurry they get stepped across all the time unenforced. People like that are prone to snapping over any little thing that finally sets them off ie. the straw that breaks the camels back. For myself I have chosen to hold a few values close to me which I don't really compromise on, everything else I try to let it slide. It makes me someone of principal and conviction who is also easygoing.
G-Money wrote:
Disciplining women doesn't work. You can be authoritative without doing that. Praise works much better.You taste amazing > you can't smoke
That could be true.
But in that situation , that I said she can't smoke and she brought it up like that, did I react the right way ? Or was I a chode ?
the fact, that you're overreacting about the smoking and spending time thinking about your state. And posting on a forum about it is pretty chode.
I get it, you don't want her to smoke. But you need to understand you can't MAKE HER do anything and the fact you're trying to is pure faggotry.
Thanks fellas, I think I got my answer.
I'm not in relationships to micromanage girl's habits and lives. These bitches either get with "the program" or I fucking drop them with little to remorse on my part.
^Once you can communicate my mindset you'll be on the right track.
^ G's got it: IMO any time you're trying to control something you have no control of, you lose. Ie. you can't control if she smokes or not, you CAN control your reactions and weather you let her in your life.
Repeatedly calling a girl a bitch is like trying to teach her astrophysics. She will gain nothing from it and you will feel some fleeting significance for about a second until you realize she remembered none of it. Lol.
IseTea wrote:
G-Money wrote:
Disciplining women doesn't work. You can be authoritative without doing that. Praise works much better.You taste amazing > you can't smoke
That could be true.
But in that situation , that I said she can't smoke and she brought it up like that, did I react the right way ? Or was I a chode ?
the fact, that you're overreacting about the smoking and spending time thinking about your state. And posting on a forum about it is pretty chode.
I get it, you don't want her to smoke. But you need to understand you can't MAKE HER do anything and the fact you're trying to is pure faggotry.
lol that was a long time ago, the fact that I remember it just means I don't approach frequent enough :p
I read the book , and I remembered things I used to do back then.
I'm more chilled nowadays, I don't really give a fuck , sometimes I act like I give a fuck but usually ... I don't.
Guys can you give me some short answers to these issues too,
1) How do you react when the girl is qualifying herself to you ? Like she says , oh I play violin too , my response : an emotionless cool or ok
2) Is bragging the same thing as qualifying ?
me : ok if you're a good girl I'd take some pictures of you myself
modelbitch : I already got a dozen photographers begging me everyday for a shoot.
me : lol, no problem then.
I should treat it the same , right ?
3) is it a bad idea if you see a girl, say something like 'hi' or 'hows it going' and keep it at that. and re engage next time you see her. I know it might seem chodish , but it'd give me the idea that we already know each other ( we once said hi ) , so I'd be more comfortable ! LOL I've only done it once btw !
It also creates a pattern provoking the same pattern of behavior. It becomes a relationship BASED on that lol
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I feel like OP just strolled into his local public library and picked up Authority: For Dummies
A lot of my mindset may seem stupid, and existential, and passive, and "meta" but adopting these mindsets will only help you.
Hey John, how bout them broncos.
we goin to the ship! We goin to the ship!
I feel like OP just strolled into his local public library and picked up Authority: For Dummies
lol hahahaa :))) I found the book in signature of a user called 0bbi on rsdn
the name seemed cool enough for me to take a look,
then I saw the guy getting result with my old set , made me think perhaps my old mind set was the right one lol hahahaaaa
give me some quick thoughts on these too , thanks
1) How do you react when the girl is qualifying herself to you ? Like she says , oh I play violin too , my response : an emotionless cool or ok
2) Is bragging the same thing as qualifying ?
me : ok if you're a good girl I'd take some pictures of you myself
modelbitch : I already got a dozen photographers begging me everyday for a shoot.
me : lol, no problem then.
I should treat it the same , right ?
3) is it a bad idea if you see a girl, say something like 'hi' or 'hows it going' and keep it at that. and re engage next time you see her. I know it might seem chodish , but it'd give me the idea that we already know each other ( we once said hi ) , so I'd be more comfortable ! LOL I've only done it once btw !
It also creates a pattern provoking the same pattern of behavior. It becomes a relationship BASED on that lol
yeah, and if the relationship is based on 'discipline', maybe she'll behave when she's around you but she's probably cheating, doing whatever the fuck she wants behind your back and taking little shits in your peanut butter.
when you've established yourself as a man of value, someone she wants to work to please, it becomes a mutually beneficial and rewarding relationship
Hey John, how bout them broncos.we goin to the ship! We goin to the ship!
Yeah! Really happy for Manning and the Broncos. Their defensive line is just bonkers
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
That's what Im saying. Cuz fuck Tom Brady.
G-Money wrote:
I feel like OP just strolled into his local public library and picked up Authority: For Dummieslol hahahaa :))) I found the book in signature of a user called 0bbi on rsdn
the name seemed cool enough for me to take a look,
then I saw the guy getting result with my old set , made me think perhaps my old mind set was the right one lol hahahaaaa
give me some quick thoughts on these too , thanks
1) How do you react when the girl is qualifying herself to you ? Like she says , oh I play violin too , my response : an emotionless cool or ok
2) Is bragging the same thing as qualifying ?
me : ok if you're a good girl I'd take some pictures of you myself
modelbitch : I already got a dozen photographers begging me everyday for a shoot.
me : lol, no problem then.
I should treat it the same , right ?
3) is it a bad idea if you see a girl, say something like 'hi' or 'hows it going' and keep it at that. and re engage next time you see her. I know it might seem chodish , but it'd give me the idea that we already know each other ( we once said hi ) , so I'd be more comfortable ! LOL I've only done it once btw !
1) I'll act genuinely interested IF I'M ACTUALLY INTERESTED. If she said violin, I would respect her dedication but wouldn't have much of a reaction. I've never been a musical person
2) I'm not exactly sure what your saying but no. I keep the bragging to a minimum, unless I'm just being RIDICULOUS? Like, the girl knows I'm fucking with her. Girls don't want braggarts. Chances are, the guy that isn't talking shit is the one who can back it up. Think loud, obnoxious dudes at a bar. How may of these faggots can actually fight? And how many are yelling at the top of their lungs, waiting to be conveniently pulled back by their friends while they, forcibly and predictively, try to break their grip and "beat your ass." Bragging makes you look try hard. Qualifying is good, yes. Do it often. If it's not working then there's not enough attraction built up.
3. That's not chode at all. You should be having good time, meeting people, working the room, etc. re engaging is very normal. I think guys don't realize this because they're steeped in community dogma and viewing every girl as a cum receptacle instead of a real person.
Naw fuck Jim Irsay
When the Colts gave him away like that it was a really stupid short-sighted decision, then when Irsay added insult to injury the way he did I just could not believe it. Manning is one of the classiest most amazing and commanding players to ever touch a football. Respect
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Him too, but at least he's not a cheater.
1) I'll act genuinely interested IF I'M ACTUALLY INTERESTED. If she said violin, I would respect her dedication but wouldn't have much of a reaction. I've never been a musical person
2) I'm not exactly sure what your saying but no. I keep the bragging to a minimum, unless I'm just being RIDICULOUS? Like, the girl knows I'm fucking with her. Girls don't want braggarts. Chances are, the guy that isn't talking shit is the one who can back it up. Think loud, obnoxious dudes at a bar. How may of these faggots can actually fight? And how many are yelling at the top of their lungs, waiting to be conveniently pulled back by their friends while they, forcibly and predictively, try to break their grip and "beat your ass." Bragging makes you look try hard. Qualifying is good, yes. Do it often. If it's not working then there's not enough attraction built up.
3. That's not chode at all. You should be having good time, meeting people, working the room, etc. re engaging is very normal. I think guys don't realize this because they're steeped in community dogma and viewing every girl as a cum receptacle instead of a real person.
Thanks mate.
Lol.. Mountain Dew
Just now the girl I'm hanging out with is having a cigarette. I make a very basic comment about how terrible it is ie. "that's terrible" (there is no need to harp on it, they KNOW how terrible it is). I casually say "after this I'm going to have to bar you from smoking around me". She's like "ok", with a bit of a knowing shrug. No conversation, she just gets it and its not a big deal. She knows how I am, I'm not unreasonable and if I make a statement like that she knows not to bother arguing. I bet she's grateful it. Calm, grounded, dominant from a place of value, that's the key to compliance as I see it.
Just now the girl I'm hanging out with is having a cigarette. I make a very basic comment about how terrible it is ie. "that's terrible" (there is no need to harp on it, they KNOW how terrible it is). I casually say "after this I'm going to have to bar you from smoking around me". She's like "ok", with a bit of a knowing shrug. No conversation, she just gets it and its not a big deal. She knows how I am, I'm not unreasonable and if I make a statement like that she knows not to bother arguing. I bet she's grateful it. Calm, grounded, dominant from a place of value, that's the key to compliance as I see it.
yeah and and most of all, you're not permission seeking.
"can you not smoke around me?"
Okay. The dynamic of authority your explaining CAN get you women, but you will only attract the weakest of the weak. If your like insecure chicks that enjoy abuse go for it. Also, this attitude will not fly with other dudes. You know whats worse than a quiet chode? a bossy one.
lol
I haven't read your Principals 101 book, but it sounds like good firewood... or even better rolling papers!
Meow wrote:
Okay. The dynamic of authority your explaining CAN get you women, but you will only attract the weakest of the weak. If your like insecure chicks that enjoy abuse go for it. Also, this attitude will not fly with other dudes. You know whats worse than a quiet chode? a bossy one.lol
I haven't read your Principals 101 book, but it sounds like good firewood... or even better rolling papers!
you can't be a self proclaimed grammar geek and not know the difference between principal and principle lol
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Dope
*principles
Glad to see you know you're shit lol
BTW G, how's the book challenge going? 3 weeks in man. I just finished 7 habits. 3 for 3 here.
BTW G, how's the book challenge going? 3 weeks in man. I just finished 7 habits. 3 for 3 here.
yeah, I've got three done so far. Working on Kitchen Confidential. Gonna finish it this weekend and do a write up.
Infinity wrote:
BTW G, how's the book challenge going? 3 weeks in man. I just finished 7 habits. 3 for 3 here.yeah, I've got three done so far. Working on Kitchen Confidential. Gonna finish it this weekend and do a write up.
I may be drunk... But that kitchen book sounds like a woman's book
fuck u all
G-Money wants to make sure a man considers him a good catch some day
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
It's Anthony Bourdain's memoir about working in the restaurant industry in NYC through the 80's and 90's. Lots of drugs and sex are involved. He just opened up a restaurant with friends and they would commonly do cocaine, acid, MDMA, quualudes (shouts out to Jordan belfort), and even send a delivery guy to get them heroin. They were on all this different shit and still pumping out amazing products for their dinner services. He's a great writer and personaity, check out any of his shows if you get a chance.
I hear that's a great book. You guys are clearly imagining G-Money in his apron cooking dinner for you and are getting excited and sexually attracted. Nothing to be ashamed of boys
I hope he cooks "good", 'cuz if he doesn't he's getting a smack on the ass. And if he does.. he's getting a smack on the ass
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I just finished Stranger in a Strange Land I'm reading Lone Survivor now
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
They both sound like books about masturbating to me