Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 02:09
I finally get why guys talk about having to push through no wanting to go out. Like before, I would always be like, "The fuck?" ... "Who wouldn't want to go out.. It's sooooo much FUN"
haha... well it's still fun but like it def. feels a bit more like a chore, especially in these beginning stages. There's partly an awesome feeling of doin it and then there's just like that other part of you that's just like, "Ughh, here we go again. Time to push through those fears... AGAIN..." Like it's not fucking comfortable lmao, it's not like my ideal situation to be honest... and on top of it all, I'm passing up some crazy opportunities with my social circle, simply because I want to be able to tell myself that I finished this challenge.
I finally see what some guys are talking about when they say that some nights they just "Don't want to go out" but they push themselves to do it anyway. Especially at this point, cause it's like, I'm at a point where I'm super stoked on a makeout lmao, heh, I mean, it's not like I'm having crazy nights... so it's just like I gotta push through it.
Like I guess the way I would put it is that I am doing this much more for my own development than I am for the "Fun" factor. I am doing this to learn, to walk through the fire and to become a man and a pimp. Fun will come, but for now, I'm gonna be putting in my time, working my way up, blue collar style.
haha... well it's still fun but like it def. feels a bit more like a chore, especially in these beginning stages. There's partly an awesome feeling of doin it and then there's just like that other part of you that's just like, "Ughh, here we go again. Time to push through those fears... AGAIN..." Like it's not fucking comfortable lmao, it's not like my ideal situation to be honest... and on top of it all, I'm passing up some crazy opportunities with my social circle, simply because I want to be able to tell myself that I finished this challenge.
I finally see what some guys are talking about when they say that some nights they just "Don't want to go out" but they push themselves to do it anyway. Especially at this point, cause it's like, I'm at a point where I'm super stoked on a makeout lmao, heh, I mean, it's not like I'm having crazy nights... so it's just like I gotta push through it.
Like I guess the way I would put it is that I am doing this much more for my own development than I am for the "Fun" factor. I am doing this to learn, to walk through the fire and to become a man and a pimp. Fun will come, but for now, I'm gonna be putting in my time, working my way up, blue collar style.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 02:30
#1
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@buddhagames:
Like, Idk if anyone else here reads other people's field reports.. But I know I certainly do.
And the one difference between the few guys who are making moves and the dudes who, after like a year in the game are still like not getting anywhere is that the dudes who are getting somewhere are making strong approaches...
The ones who aren't getting anywhere are the ones who are constantly writing how they didn't quite do all their approaches for the night, or they were too afraid to approach anyone at the bar.. and then they ALL right... "But it's cool, it's okay, I went out"
Uhmm... FUCK THAT... it's not okay, as someone who is just starting out solo and sober, to NOT get the # of approaches in that you told yourself you'd get, simply because you were fucking scared. Like JEEESUS... there is NO way to justify that to yourself. And if you are, stop.
If I have a night where I didn't get all my approaches in and I don't have a valid reason for it. I will not be telling you guys that, "It's cool". THAT I promise you.
It's one thing to be like, "Okay, I'm gonna make 10 approaches tonight" and then you make like 7 and then on your 7th you get laid so you don't end up getting them all in- but it's another to say you're gonna get 10 in but then only get like 5 in and then you just bitch out... BIG difference.
Like, Idk if anyone else here reads other people's field reports.. But I know I certainly do.
And the one difference between the few guys who are making moves and the dudes who, after like a year in the game are still like not getting anywhere is that the dudes who are getting somewhere are making strong approaches...
The ones who aren't getting anywhere are the ones who are constantly writing how they didn't quite do all their approaches for the night, or they were too afraid to approach anyone at the bar.. and then they ALL right... "But it's cool, it's okay, I went out"
Uhmm... FUCK THAT... it's not okay, as someone who is just starting out solo and sober, to NOT get the # of approaches in that you told yourself you'd get, simply because you were fucking scared. Like JEEESUS... there is NO way to justify that to yourself. And if you are, stop.
If I have a night where I didn't get all my approaches in and I don't have a valid reason for it. I will not be telling you guys that, "It's cool". THAT I promise you.
It's one thing to be like, "Okay, I'm gonna make 10 approaches tonight" and then you make like 7 and then on your 7th you get laid so you don't end up getting them all in- but it's another to say you're gonna get 10 in but then only get like 5 in and then you just bitch out... BIG difference.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 03:30
#2
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
when i go out sober and/or alone i usually do have fun, but when your realllyy pushing hard on the boundaries of your comfort zone its akin to lifting weights.
Ahhhh fuck this sucks, this is one heavy ass barbell, im getting lightheaded, one more one more one more ahhhhhhh *SLAM* oh god, fuck me that sucked. fuck two more sets to go. shit. - Oh well, 2 minutes is up, this is going to be hard as balls *REPEAT*
Sometimes its awesome but sometimes is sucks ass. Gotta focus on the good (the makeout, or the pumped feeling (in either case it feels like i am coming)) or the fact that you did push yourself out of your comfort zone. BUT EITHER WAY YOU JUST HAVE TO DO IT!!!
- reporting live from my basement gym.. fuck.. speaking of not 'just doing it' just today i hit my old squat numbers from last fall after slacking off all winter and spring. i can help but imagine if i were lifting that whole time i would be next level. fack! oh well. can't make that same mistake elsewhere. push yourself eeryday
Ahhhh fuck this sucks, this is one heavy ass barbell, im getting lightheaded, one more one more one more ahhhhhhh *SLAM* oh god, fuck me that sucked. fuck two more sets to go. shit. - Oh well, 2 minutes is up, this is going to be hard as balls *REPEAT*
Sometimes its awesome but sometimes is sucks ass. Gotta focus on the good (the makeout, or the pumped feeling (in either case it feels like i am coming)) or the fact that you did push yourself out of your comfort zone. BUT EITHER WAY YOU JUST HAVE TO DO IT!!!
- reporting live from my basement gym.. fuck.. speaking of not 'just doing it' just today i hit my old squat numbers from last fall after slacking off all winter and spring. i can help but imagine if i were lifting that whole time i would be next level. fack! oh well. can't make that same mistake elsewhere. push yourself eeryday
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 07:22
#3
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@buddhagames:
It's a great skill to develop. Build up that core confidence that say if you go somewhere foreign (i.e. new city, new club) by yourself you know that you will be able to handle it on your own. Not to be a dick but pickup isn't a team sport at the end of the day. Don't get me wrong - I learned the hard way that having a wing is fucking great for you but until you can get rid of that wing dependency it will always be one of those things that holds you back.
If i can do it, you can definitely do it....go get it...
It's a great skill to develop. Build up that core confidence that say if you go somewhere foreign (i.e. new city, new club) by yourself you know that you will be able to handle it on your own. Not to be a dick but pickup isn't a team sport at the end of the day. Don't get me wrong - I learned the hard way that having a wing is fucking great for you but until you can get rid of that wing dependency it will always be one of those things that holds you back.
If i can do it, you can definitely do it....go get it...
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 07:46
#4
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@Katalyst:
Yeah man, been goin solo and sober for 4 nights now, doin a 30 day solo/sober challenge and then will reevaluate. It's only getting better each night.
Love the support.
I got a lot of respect for you Katalyst. You go solo/sober at TOP venues. That's tough shit man. I'll be there with you soon enough. Hang in there ; )
Yeah man, been goin solo and sober for 4 nights now, doin a 30 day solo/sober challenge and then will reevaluate. It's only getting better each night.
Love the support.
I got a lot of respect for you Katalyst. You go solo/sober at TOP venues. That's tough shit man. I'll be there with you soon enough. Hang in there ; )
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 08:10
#5
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@buddhagames:
It's just something you have to do if you want to become great.
It's just something you have to do if you want to become great.
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Wed, 06/27/2012 - 09:49
#6
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@Manwhore:
Yeah dude, i go sober all the time but have way too much wings available to NOT go out with them at night. It's stupid cause i should just set aside one 'challenge' night where it's just me, sober and solo, kickin ass. I've done this before and got shit done, you just have to take action consistently from the beginning of the night.
However i do go out and do daygame by myself with no problem at all, although i haven't got it in me yet to approach a mixed group during daytime.
Yeah dude, i go sober all the time but have way too much wings available to NOT go out with them at night. It's stupid cause i should just set aside one 'challenge' night where it's just me, sober and solo, kickin ass. I've done this before and got shit done, you just have to take action consistently from the beginning of the night.
However i do go out and do daygame by myself with no problem at all, although i haven't got it in me yet to approach a mixed group during daytime.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 09:28
#7
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@Gogo:
lmfao- trust me dude- I have a TON of wings I could hit it with.
I also have a pretty fucking dope social circle. I am just making the active choice to do this because it is going to make me a fucking pimp. My entire social circle was at provocateur tonight (probably THE hottest club in nyc right now) with bottle service and I was just like, "Nah guys, I'm gonna go do my own thing tonight"... lol, I'm such a weirdo... but I'm also gonna be a beast, in due time, with hard work... so it is what it is.
Like I'm learning a retarded amount, just because i'm sober and because I'm alone, I'm pushing myself into shit and not relying on anything or anyone except myself.
lmfao- trust me dude- I have a TON of wings I could hit it with.
I also have a pretty fucking dope social circle. I am just making the active choice to do this because it is going to make me a fucking pimp. My entire social circle was at provocateur tonight (probably THE hottest club in nyc right now) with bottle service and I was just like, "Nah guys, I'm gonna go do my own thing tonight"... lol, I'm such a weirdo... but I'm also gonna be a beast, in due time, with hard work... so it is what it is.
Like I'm learning a retarded amount, just because i'm sober and because I'm alone, I'm pushing myself into shit and not relying on anything or anyone except myself.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 09:29
#8
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@buddhagames:
But dude- that daygame shit is AWESOME. I haven't started that up yet but VERY soon I will be making a commitment to myself to do 5 HARD daygame approaches a day. So I'll be right there with you dude. Much respect.
But dude- that daygame shit is AWESOME. I haven't started that up yet but VERY soon I will be making a commitment to myself to do 5 HARD daygame approaches a day. So I'll be right there with you dude. Much respect.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 11:03
#9
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@buddhagames:
Fucking awesome buddah.
Shit goin out solo is tough. Ur mind just keeps coming up with lame excuses and it's so easy to fall into the fag frame.
If you don't step up and take control, you're night can get completely fucked.
I'm currently doing a challenge where I go out alone for 10days. Then once I've done that me and some buddies will actively go out and cockblock each other, or trying to steal each others girls. Similar to what Julien and Tyler are doing to each other.
Fucking awesome buddah.
Shit goin out solo is tough. Ur mind just keeps coming up with lame excuses and it's so easy to fall into the fag frame.
If you don't step up and take control, you're night can get completely fucked.
I'm currently doing a challenge where I go out alone for 10days. Then once I've done that me and some buddies will actively go out and cockblock each other, or trying to steal each others girls. Similar to what Julien and Tyler are doing to each other.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 13:50
#10
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@buddhagames:
Solos is fun stuff dude! I went out solo when I started as a dark virgin newbie a year ago for about 8-10 months. Some of the shit you learn is pretty crazy. It will make you VERY solid. If you want to have THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE. Try this.
-Meet everyone in the venue (Guys / girls)
-Ensure you start off with the FUN party groups. ie Birthday parties / people who look like they're having fun. Never start with people who are having a SHIT day. If you're not and you stay in the set you're risking the chance of getting sucked in and stifled.
-Add to their group vibe. These groups love COOL guys who don't suck the value.
-As you meet more of these groups introduce the people together (guys/chicks)
-You have now taken over the venue.
Once you have taken over the venue and everyone you walk by is talking to you, you'll feel like a champion. It's a shit ton of fun and makes you come off as the ultimate social dude. Chicks dig the social dude.
Solos is fun stuff dude! I went out solo when I started as a dark virgin newbie a year ago for about 8-10 months. Some of the shit you learn is pretty crazy. It will make you VERY solid. If you want to have THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE. Try this.
-Meet everyone in the venue (Guys / girls)
-Ensure you start off with the FUN party groups. ie Birthday parties / people who look like they're having fun. Never start with people who are having a SHIT day. If you're not and you stay in the set you're risking the chance of getting sucked in and stifled.
-Add to their group vibe. These groups love COOL guys who don't suck the value.
-As you meet more of these groups introduce the people together (guys/chicks)
-You have now taken over the venue.
Once you have taken over the venue and everyone you walk by is talking to you, you'll feel like a champion. It's a shit ton of fun and makes you come off as the ultimate social dude. Chicks dig the social dude.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 13:58
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Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@Steve:
ooo good advice man. I like that introducing people to people thing,
ooo good advice man. I like that introducing people to people thing,
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 14:29
#12
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
Manwhore;752.5659;5 wrote:
@buddhagames:
It's just something you have to do if you want to become great.
Yes. This is such an awesome way to put it. Short and to the point... It's just something you have to do if you want to be great.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 14:47
#13
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@buddhagames:
I know what you're saying man its a weird duality you feel kinda awesome taking action but there's still that lil thought in the back of your head that this is fucking weird. But whatever, these are the nights that seperate the chodes from the pimps.
I know what you're saying man its a weird duality you feel kinda awesome taking action but there's still that lil thought in the back of your head that this is fucking weird. But whatever, these are the nights that seperate the chodes from the pimps.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 23:56
#14
Re: Going out sober and alone: Not THAT fun lmao
@buddhagames:
There IS a reason I love my boys.
So they were all headin out again tonight and once again I'm like, "I'm doin my own thing" and I just tell them flat out what I'm doing and like they are all totally cool with it and respect that I'm dedicated to getting something done.
And then I text one of my buddies and I'm just like, "I know man, I'm such a WEIRDO" and just texts me back and goes, "Nah, dude, being unique is admirable. Simply and plainly"
Btw- this guy is a stone cold pimp. Good friends, good dudes. My life is pretty sweet.
I'm finally around people that aren't gonna even TRY to bring me down. I love it. That's the key- if you're the kind of dude who is confident and tends to "break the mold"... you HAVE to surround yourself with other confident people because the others will just try and bring you down... but the real solid people will only build you up and support you.
There IS a reason I love my boys.
So they were all headin out again tonight and once again I'm like, "I'm doin my own thing" and I just tell them flat out what I'm doing and like they are all totally cool with it and respect that I'm dedicated to getting something done.
And then I text one of my buddies and I'm just like, "I know man, I'm such a WEIRDO" and just texts me back and goes, "Nah, dude, being unique is admirable. Simply and plainly"
Btw- this guy is a stone cold pimp. Good friends, good dudes. My life is pretty sweet.
I'm finally around people that aren't gonna even TRY to bring me down. I love it. That's the key- if you're the kind of dude who is confident and tends to "break the mold"... you HAVE to surround yourself with other confident people because the others will just try and bring you down... but the real solid people will only build you up and support you.