Cutting Contact
Fri, 08/31/2012 - 01:54
Hey guys,
I wrote a post here asking for help with this girl a little while back basically stating that we would always start to talk, agree to chill and then she would suddenly cancel, say her life was crap and she wasn't in a good place and then basically stop talking. This has happened a few times in the past and I was always sort of interesting in her while she would dick me around. The same thing happened a few weeks back, we agreed to chill and yet another cancellation occured.
So tonight, I'm sitting around doing my physiotherapy to recover and who do I get a call from but her? She asks what I'm doing I tell her that I'm training or w.e and she says "Cool, if you want to talk call me up". Sure enough, a little while later I call her up and I was straight up with her.. I asked what her intentions were with talking to me and she said she wanted to be friends because I was a nice guy. I told her that wasn't good enough and that she was wasting my time while I used to be interested I'm not going to be dicked around. She made up a sob story and claimed how she had shit going on and didn't know why we couldn't be friends. I told her bye, and not to contact me anymore.
She just sent me a huge text message asking what she did wrong to which I will not respond. Anyways I just wanted to share this with you guys, because I've never really had much confidence with girls but I just started my second semester of college and I'm moving forward and just trying to move forward and I'm starting to put girls on less and less of a pedestal. I've been talking to some pretty attractive girls and everything seems to be positive and I realised I don't need this shit with a girl who I've been in contact with for over a year on and off who didn't respect me.
I know this was a long venting post, but I'd just like to thank you guys for a lot of your help and reading through this forum has helped me realize that I need to take control and be a man of action, I'm working on that and myself and will not let a bitch get in the way of that.
I wrote a post here asking for help with this girl a little while back basically stating that we would always start to talk, agree to chill and then she would suddenly cancel, say her life was crap and she wasn't in a good place and then basically stop talking. This has happened a few times in the past and I was always sort of interesting in her while she would dick me around. The same thing happened a few weeks back, we agreed to chill and yet another cancellation occured.
So tonight, I'm sitting around doing my physiotherapy to recover and who do I get a call from but her? She asks what I'm doing I tell her that I'm training or w.e and she says "Cool, if you want to talk call me up". Sure enough, a little while later I call her up and I was straight up with her.. I asked what her intentions were with talking to me and she said she wanted to be friends because I was a nice guy. I told her that wasn't good enough and that she was wasting my time while I used to be interested I'm not going to be dicked around. She made up a sob story and claimed how she had shit going on and didn't know why we couldn't be friends. I told her bye, and not to contact me anymore.
She just sent me a huge text message asking what she did wrong to which I will not respond. Anyways I just wanted to share this with you guys, because I've never really had much confidence with girls but I just started my second semester of college and I'm moving forward and just trying to move forward and I'm starting to put girls on less and less of a pedestal. I've been talking to some pretty attractive girls and everything seems to be positive and I realised I don't need this shit with a girl who I've been in contact with for over a year on and off who didn't respect me.
I know this was a long venting post, but I'd just like to thank you guys for a lot of your help and reading through this forum has helped me realize that I need to take control and be a man of action, I'm working on that and myself and will not let a bitch get in the way of that.
Fri, 08/31/2012 - 02:41
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Re: Cutting Contact
@crackzaa:
Right she's not worth your time, has no ability to coexist on any level beyond her "shit life". You will be at a point, at one time or later, even now, where this kind of girl wouldn't even end up in your phone book.
Right she's not worth your time, has no ability to coexist on any level beyond her "shit life". You will be at a point, at one time or later, even now, where this kind of girl wouldn't even end up in your phone book.
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Fri, 08/31/2012 - 03:11
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Re: Cutting Contact
@Manwhore:
Yeah I know this post was sort of out of the blue, but recently I had kind of been down on myself because of my lack of success with women and would almost go for anything, which was a pretty much a circle which kept repeating itself. I worked in a pretty anti-social place for the whole summer and (I test video games lol) wasn't really speaking to many girls. So for whatever reason I put them on a pedestal and whenever this girl would call or text I would always be there and almost sort of at her command. Even though I was told by multiple friends it was stupid and it wasnt worth my time, I still pursued her.
Funny thing is now that school started back up again, I'm talking to more girls and getting more comfortable in my skin, I often seen them miring. Actually spoke to a dime french chick who sat next to me in one of my classes, and joked around a little bit, whilst she complimented me on my french and had a nervous/cute smile going on. I guess it's all a self fulfilling prophecy because for a while I've been out of training too and that has gotten me down. So recently, I visited my training coach and just spent some time shooting the shit with people at the gym and let them know about how my healing process is coming along and I'm going to back back in the gym and ready to fight hopefully pretty soon.
Like, i actually was thinking about that same girl today before she called and we hadn't had contact in forever, and how I should finally tell her that you know that she wasn't worth my time and that there are other people who won't take me for granted.
Anyways, Like I said a bit of a rant, but it's cool to finally start to dig myself out of being in a bad place for a while, and I'm slowly seeing my physical recovery which also seems to be fueling everything else in my life. Instead of focusing on "I NEED A GIRLFRIEND", I'm taking things one day at a time, speaking to girls at school, but mainly focusing on being the best me and getting the fuck back in the gym.
Yeah I know this post was sort of out of the blue, but recently I had kind of been down on myself because of my lack of success with women and would almost go for anything, which was a pretty much a circle which kept repeating itself. I worked in a pretty anti-social place for the whole summer and (I test video games lol) wasn't really speaking to many girls. So for whatever reason I put them on a pedestal and whenever this girl would call or text I would always be there and almost sort of at her command. Even though I was told by multiple friends it was stupid and it wasnt worth my time, I still pursued her.
Funny thing is now that school started back up again, I'm talking to more girls and getting more comfortable in my skin, I often seen them miring. Actually spoke to a dime french chick who sat next to me in one of my classes, and joked around a little bit, whilst she complimented me on my french and had a nervous/cute smile going on. I guess it's all a self fulfilling prophecy because for a while I've been out of training too and that has gotten me down. So recently, I visited my training coach and just spent some time shooting the shit with people at the gym and let them know about how my healing process is coming along and I'm going to back back in the gym and ready to fight hopefully pretty soon.
Like, i actually was thinking about that same girl today before she called and we hadn't had contact in forever, and how I should finally tell her that you know that she wasn't worth my time and that there are other people who won't take me for granted.
Anyways, Like I said a bit of a rant, but it's cool to finally start to dig myself out of being in a bad place for a while, and I'm slowly seeing my physical recovery which also seems to be fueling everything else in my life. Instead of focusing on "I NEED A GIRLFRIEND", I'm taking things one day at a time, speaking to girls at school, but mainly focusing on being the best me and getting the fuck back in the gym.