Met a girl on Tinder, she liked me but wanted a relationship

She needs a visa to come see you? LOL!

manwhore could you critique the exchange.

I'm not going to sit here and grade a text exchange between two people attempting to communicate in a language neither of them understand very well. Plus you're both so damn tepid with each other. What is the logistical context here? What country are you in, what country is she in? 

we are in cyprus which is divided going out from one sde to the other 1 minutes deal

Mmkay if you think that's a good enough answer to my question then clearly the real issue here is you're a dullard and you simply lack the ability to communicate really at all. Can  you add more pertinent details that explain the situation better than that? If you can't then there's simply no reason for you to be on this forum. 

wow there dude there is no reason to name call i mean im quite intellectual and have been part of a state department program in washigton for leadership, plus i have a medal for honor for fighting fires in a difficult situation where 65 people died.

I may have communication problems i get that but we are all in the community because of that otherwise we would not be here.

logistically she is a student and has alot of free time on her hands plus its august where i am on vacation. to get a visa it takes 20 seconds and you can go from one side to the other

Yeah? Then fucking be more forthcoming with details next time don't make anyone drag them out of you. It's stupid and frustrating. If you cannot manage this or would rather be petulant than realize your error here then you don't need to be on this forum.

i am actually quite calm.im just taken back by the negativity man seriously constructive critism is one thing and i am for it.

I am now realizing the error of my ways. Sorry Jon :( I was being an entitled fag talking about my awesomeness in school... 

I wasn't tripping over that, dude. I just thought what you presented was sorta.. not what you described. Lol. I actually don't mind this guy mentioning his professional background either, but if he thinks that somehow allows him to communicate like an idiot he's got a lot to learn. Women will not stand this sort of thing. I am pushing this for a reason. Clearly this is a major part of his overall problem. Haha 

dude im just stuck sometimes i feel like a big chokehold is on me and i dont know what to do about it. at a certaint point of my life i was doing great but then something gotta a hold of me and just cannot for the life of me be myself i have all these thoughs all these things getting about me in the insecurities i have.

i dont know what happened i just want to be the person i know i can be

Absolutely fuck no. This is not a fairytale, you do not live in magicland. Multiple times now you've communicated like you had zero communication skills. Zero effort, zero detail, writing nonsense almost deliberately misleading as to the real situation. You don't see the incredibly strong correlation between this and your complete lack of results with women? DUH. Now if you think I'm going to rainbows and sunshine your ass into doing things the right way you've clearly not been around the block a few times like you say you have. This has already been mentioned to you repeatedly. You've not complied in any way or demonstrated any more effort. So you won't learn. So your results will be shit. So in the end you will end up being a complete waste of our time. 

You need to fix this. Put in more effort to your postings. 

it might be strange to hear but i do get good results with women and the main reason is because im putting like this mask of self confidence that may hold up but it tires me .

Women look at me as a friend when i dont

yet i cannot hold it for ever

in my heart i like caring about people and try to help everyone regardless

women say thing like you have the biggest heart etc

many times i am the nice guy

in my heart i want to help everyone yet i have been betrayed by many people i helped 

in my life i had periods that i felt like a god followed by incredible lows

8 years ago i had 7 girls at the same time 2 very very beautiful .

my problem is that i feel when i am confident thats not the real me

the last 3 girls i was ecalated on me.Which felt great.

When i am in the zone i feel like a god and then my self defeating tendancies come up and feel like i am worthless all my young age i was bullied i found refuge in video games and avoided all human contact.

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That's all pretty typical stuff, mang. Nothing too damning or "special case". You need to handle your emotions better and be more technically proficient conversationally and socially. That includes written. 

You should start writing detailed field reports in your native tongue. Then translate them to English. Not sure if you can afford training, but that's always the best, fastest option.