How to deal with emotional girls
Sat, 12/01/2012 - 20:01
So I recently added two girl to my rotation and at first, they were both acting like they were super down for the whole, "Let's have sex and then you can kick me out right after" thing...
But obviously, that ends after a little while and no matter what you do, they start to get attached and get emotional.
So this is something that I'm really just trying out but I wanted to put it out there and see who else has tried this and how it's worked out for them...
It's simple: I just laugh OBNOXIOUSLY in their face any time they start to get emotional, cry or complain, in any way.
That's it. I just laugh... and then she tries to be like, "This isn't funny... I didn't expect to get kicked out 2 hours after coming over".... then I just keep laughing...
It's basically just COMPLETELY DENYING their frame. Like ENTIRELY. Any time there is any hint of emotional shit giong on- I just laugh
So far, it's worked magic. At first they are mad, then confused and then they can't help but crack a smile.
Is this sustainable... If you've experimented with this, let me know your thoughts.
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After she left this morning, she sent me the following texts in succession:
Her: "What the fuck... I'm honest and good as shit and you rub my face in the dirt?
Her: "I can't believe you are kicking me out, I don't do that"
Her: "And you cost me $50 in cab fare. Seriously fuck you
Her: "I don't even curse but you really pissed off the rarely irritable
So yeah, she's upset... but what's funny about this is that it's just going to make her more inveseted in me, in the longrun, which is a little absurd how that works.
My response? No response... In this situation, I just don't respond via text (Anything I could or would say, would just validate her frame, so I freeze her out and then wait for her to text me again either appologizing for what she said, or just ignoring it and moving on) she'll get over it and when the dust settles, she'll be more invested.
Lifes weird like that.
But obviously, that ends after a little while and no matter what you do, they start to get attached and get emotional.
So this is something that I'm really just trying out but I wanted to put it out there and see who else has tried this and how it's worked out for them...
It's simple: I just laugh OBNOXIOUSLY in their face any time they start to get emotional, cry or complain, in any way.
That's it. I just laugh... and then she tries to be like, "This isn't funny... I didn't expect to get kicked out 2 hours after coming over".... then I just keep laughing...
It's basically just COMPLETELY DENYING their frame. Like ENTIRELY. Any time there is any hint of emotional shit giong on- I just laugh
So far, it's worked magic. At first they are mad, then confused and then they can't help but crack a smile.
Is this sustainable... If you've experimented with this, let me know your thoughts.
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After she left this morning, she sent me the following texts in succession:
Her: "What the fuck... I'm honest and good as shit and you rub my face in the dirt?
Her: "I can't believe you are kicking me out, I don't do that"
Her: "And you cost me $50 in cab fare. Seriously fuck you
Her: "I don't even curse but you really pissed off the rarely irritable
So yeah, she's upset... but what's funny about this is that it's just going to make her more inveseted in me, in the longrun, which is a little absurd how that works.
My response? No response... In this situation, I just don't respond via text (Anything I could or would say, would just validate her frame, so I freeze her out and then wait for her to text me again either appologizing for what she said, or just ignoring it and moving on) she'll get over it and when the dust settles, she'll be more invested.
Lifes weird like that.
Mon, 12/03/2012 - 00:12
#1
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@buddhagames:
More of you guys need to read this. It's MONEY
Also- if you aren't doing this, ask yourself why?
If you have a better way of dealing with this shit, hit me with it
More of you guys need to read this. It's MONEY
Also- if you aren't doing this, ask yourself why?
If you have a better way of dealing with this shit, hit me with it
Mon, 12/03/2012 - 01:38
#2
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
The best way to deal with emotional girls is to not actually be one yourself. BAM
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Mon, 12/03/2012 - 01:48
#3
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
YOU WANT A COOKIE??
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Mon, 12/03/2012 - 03:45
#4
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@Manwhore:
I'd absolutely LOVE a cookie dude
but here's the thing- I'm gonna need you to chew it up for me but it's cool cause I'll just stand right below you and I'll just keep my mouth open and catch whatever crumbs fall
I'd absolutely LOVE a cookie dude
but here's the thing- I'm gonna need you to chew it up for me but it's cool cause I'll just stand right below you and I'll just keep my mouth open and catch whatever crumbs fall
Mon, 12/03/2012 - 13:48
#5
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@buddhagames:
lol, odd.
Anyway, sounds a lot similiar to Tyler's strategy when girls ask him about being her 'boyfriend'.
lol, odd.
Anyway, sounds a lot similiar to Tyler's strategy when girls ask him about being her 'boyfriend'.
Mon, 12/03/2012 - 14:20
#6
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
Ok I just read the post, that's pretty funny lol.
It's basically just emotional leading. That's it, just with a more extreme example. Yes it's sustainable as long as you maintain control, first of yourself then her, but no, just laughing in her face every time will have a shelf life of about three weeks. Haha
If you want to live really close to the edge, play it as close to her game as possible without ever losing the control. I think that's basically where you aim the more experienced you get. Because it's a more "real" relationship as you guys are actually building something together.
It's basically just emotional leading. That's it, just with a more extreme example. Yes it's sustainable as long as you maintain control, first of yourself then her, but no, just laughing in her face every time will have a shelf life of about three weeks. Haha
If you want to live really close to the edge, play it as close to her game as possible without ever losing the control. I think that's basically where you aim the more experienced you get. Because it's a more "real" relationship as you guys are actually building something together.
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Mon, 12/03/2012 - 14:47
#7
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@Manwhore:
@Christ: hahaha, holy shit. I was coming off of a long streak of chiln with one of my buddies and I forgot that our humor, to a stranger, would be totally weird lol... that's hilarious, I totally didn't even think about that
But actually it's funny cause I was saying similar shit to this waitress on saturday and she was dieing laughing, ended up getting her # after talking about chicken pensis's and having her vomit food into my mouth
@manwhore: Solid... thanks for the feedback.
@Christ: hahaha, holy shit. I was coming off of a long streak of chiln with one of my buddies and I forgot that our humor, to a stranger, would be totally weird lol... that's hilarious, I totally didn't even think about that
But actually it's funny cause I was saying similar shit to this waitress on saturday and she was dieing laughing, ended up getting her # after talking about chicken pensis's and having her vomit food into my mouth
@manwhore: Solid... thanks for the feedback.
Mon, 12/03/2012 - 20:19
#8
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@buddhagames:
That's right homie, christ has risen, and christ has cum again.
That's right homie, christ has risen, and christ has cum again.
Tue, 12/04/2012 - 00:08
#9
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@buddhagames:
lol man, I woudl try this buts it not me. i don't mind the girls being attached. whats the big deal
lol man, I woudl try this buts it not me. i don't mind the girls being attached. whats the big deal
Tue, 12/04/2012 - 00:50
#10
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
level_up;1615.10271;46 wrote:
@buddhagames:
lol man, I woudl try this buts it not me. i don't mind the girls being attached. whats the big deal
ugh, idk man, honesly- it's just kinda a turnoff for me when they get clingy...
Tue, 12/04/2012 - 14:45
#11
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@buddhagames:
I have this theory that guys who get into pickup - like Buddah and myself, that we learn the hard way as most guys do that clingy-ness is unattractive. So we see it in girls and its like "eww... yuck", but on the other hand is possibly magnified in some cases due to a lack of life experience.
I have this theory that guys who get into pickup - like Buddah and myself, that we learn the hard way as most guys do that clingy-ness is unattractive. So we see it in girls and its like "eww... yuck", but on the other hand is possibly magnified in some cases due to a lack of life experience.
Sat, 12/08/2012 - 11:55
#12
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
1) girls that are down for fucking and peacing out aren't that attracted to you. They want dick and you were available. Grats.
2) what you are describing aren't 'emotional girls'. All women will respond this way when they are feeling used. But that's not your fault if youre honest with them and since she came to see you.
3) sounds like your expectations are off. All Girls are still cute, cuddly, little flowers that want to be caressed. Kicking them out after sex is going to make her feel like shit unless she volunteers to leave. Which means she's not getting kicked out.
4) why are you kicking them out in the first place? Don't you like waking up next to a hot girl? I know I do. And morning sex is the best. Nothing beats it. Plus I like how women smell and when they sleep over, it makes my bed smell even better. I love having my pillow smell like hot woman for 3 days. Yum.
Start bringing home girls that you actually want to wake up and bone in the morning. It's way worth it even if it means you pulling way less often. Quality > Quantity, always. I'd rather bone 1 hotty than 10 cuties or 100 not so cute just gimme pussy. And all of this advice is based on my own experiences as always.
2) what you are describing aren't 'emotional girls'. All women will respond this way when they are feeling used. But that's not your fault if youre honest with them and since she came to see you.
3) sounds like your expectations are off. All Girls are still cute, cuddly, little flowers that want to be caressed. Kicking them out after sex is going to make her feel like shit unless she volunteers to leave. Which means she's not getting kicked out.
4) why are you kicking them out in the first place? Don't you like waking up next to a hot girl? I know I do. And morning sex is the best. Nothing beats it. Plus I like how women smell and when they sleep over, it makes my bed smell even better. I love having my pillow smell like hot woman for 3 days. Yum.
Start bringing home girls that you actually want to wake up and bone in the morning. It's way worth it even if it means you pulling way less often. Quality > Quantity, always. I'd rather bone 1 hotty than 10 cuties or 100 not so cute just gimme pussy. And all of this advice is based on my own experiences as always.
Sat, 12/08/2012 - 12:03
#13
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@kris
A girl telling you that she wants a relationship and likes you isn't clingy behavior. It's pretty natural and means you're doing the right thing. Like you, this doesn't bother me. I simply tell her no, as I did from the beginning and will stop seeing her if it becomes a problem for her.
Now a girl that sleeps in your bed until 5pm is another story...
Either way, there's just waaaay too much reading into things and analyzing very basic situations going on here. I am out. See you all next time for my random monthly login advice and tips version 1.3
P.S. manwhore send me more dick pics please, thank you.
A girl telling you that she wants a relationship and likes you isn't clingy behavior. It's pretty natural and means you're doing the right thing. Like you, this doesn't bother me. I simply tell her no, as I did from the beginning and will stop seeing her if it becomes a problem for her.
Now a girl that sleeps in your bed until 5pm is another story...
Either way, there's just waaaay too much reading into things and analyzing very basic situations going on here. I am out. See you all next time for my random monthly login advice and tips version 1.3
P.S. manwhore send me more dick pics please, thank you.
Sat, 12/08/2012 - 18:07
#14
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
Jeff;1615.10347;147 wrote:
1) girls that are down for fucking and peacing out aren't that attracted to you. They want dick and you were available. Grats.
2) what you are describing aren't 'emotional girls'. All women will respond this way when they are feeling used. But that's not your fault if youre honest with them and since she came to see you.
3) sounds like your expectations are off. All Girls are still cute, cuddly, little flowers that want to be caressed. Kicking them out after sex is going to make her feel like shit unless she volunteers to leave. Which means she's not getting kicked out.
4) why are you kicking them out in the first place? Don't you like waking up next to a hot girl? I know I do. And morning sex is the best. Nothing beats it. Plus I like how women smell and when they sleep over, it makes my bed smell even better. I love having my pillow smell like hot woman for 3 days. Yum.
Start bringing home girls that you actually want to wake up and bone in the morning. It's way worth it even if it means you pulling way less often. Quality > Quantity, always. I'd rather bone 1 hotty than 10 cuties or 100 not so cute just gimme pussy. And all of this advice is based on my own experiences as always.
2. Just because all girls will react this way doesn't mean they "aren't" emotional. It simply would mean that all girls are emotional.
3. My expectations aren't off. I fully recognize that kicking her out will cause this reaction... what I described in this post was a way of dealing with the inevitable consequences of doing so.
4. I agree with this.
Sun, 12/09/2012 - 00:10
#15
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
This isnt a matter of who's right and who's wrong between you two, this is a matter of two different styles peeking at each other over the fence, haha
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Wed, 12/12/2012 - 12:36
#16
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@buddhagames:
good stuff here
good stuff here
Wed, 12/12/2012 - 12:50
#17
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
^ Buddha, this is your boy right here.
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Wed, 12/12/2012 - 14:07
#18
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@Manwhore
lol awesome
lol awesome
Sat, 12/15/2012 - 09:32
#19
Re: How to deal with emotional girls
@buddhagames:
Yah I can see why Jeff would say why kick them out as he's more a social circle pimp while Buddah and I are more cold approach from what I understand. If you were doing that in social circle that would be absolutely retarded. No need to be that much of a sociopathic drama king like Julien or some shit. Cold approach a lot of times these chicks are "supposedly" drunk and random so a wider range of positive and negative emotions is necessary. Idk where you live Jeff but I almost feel like you got to mistreat these big city chicks to keep 'em. Treat them mean to keep them keen. This alongside self-acceptance honestly was the one thing that took my game to the next level.
Damn I'm on a roll (i'm talking about posting on the forums) this is like the first time I was able to get like more than 6 hours of sleep in a day for like a week -yo my brain is like crystal clear. WOW. Holy fuck this shit is amazing. O my god.
xoxo
Yah I can see why Jeff would say why kick them out as he's more a social circle pimp while Buddah and I are more cold approach from what I understand. If you were doing that in social circle that would be absolutely retarded. No need to be that much of a sociopathic drama king like Julien or some shit. Cold approach a lot of times these chicks are "supposedly" drunk and random so a wider range of positive and negative emotions is necessary. Idk where you live Jeff but I almost feel like you got to mistreat these big city chicks to keep 'em. Treat them mean to keep them keen. This alongside self-acceptance honestly was the one thing that took my game to the next level.
Damn I'm on a roll (i'm talking about posting on the forums) this is like the first time I was able to get like more than 6 hours of sleep in a day for like a week -yo my brain is like crystal clear. WOW. Holy fuck this shit is amazing. O my god.
xoxo