Weird situation with girl I planned on friend zoning
Tue, 04/23/2013 - 03:11
There's this girl lately, I don't really want to fuck at all. Literally agreed to hang with her simply because I thought she was completely genuinely nice to another chick.
I roll to her house the other day and we go lay in her bed for a nap. I have no intention of fucking her as said.
So anyway shes on top of me later and out lips are touching about 20 minutes later (old habits die hard?) and when I tried to pull the trigger she went completely no-go and even whispered "I just don't want to be an accident." I didn't push really hard because I was set in my head that I wasn't gonna push this girl into anything (no idea why). Later that night she texts me with a lot of weird things but the weirdest exchange for me was:
Her: Hey can we talk highschool for a second?
Me: Idk what that means but sure.
Her: like about our feelings and stuff.
Me; sure hit me.
Her: would it have been an accident?
I know that isn't that weird but in this situation it floored me. Here I am in a situation with a lower end but mildly attractive girl who I originally was going to friendzone ask me if us doing stuff was gonna be an accident and couldn't answer because I really didn't even know wtf was going on or if it was or wasn't. Bitchy post but of all the girl things that have happened to me recently, this one floored me and made me question myself the hardest.
Any thoughts? Now I have this weird ego attachment thing about whether or not I could fuck her and don't know what to do. Like it seriously fucked with my head that I didn't end up doing anything with her... Weird bitchy behavior on my part, but I'm looking for answers related to presence and improvement more than dating advice on this one. Although dating advice for the future wouldn't hurt.
I roll to her house the other day and we go lay in her bed for a nap. I have no intention of fucking her as said.
So anyway shes on top of me later and out lips are touching about 20 minutes later (old habits die hard?) and when I tried to pull the trigger she went completely no-go and even whispered "I just don't want to be an accident." I didn't push really hard because I was set in my head that I wasn't gonna push this girl into anything (no idea why). Later that night she texts me with a lot of weird things but the weirdest exchange for me was:
Her: Hey can we talk highschool for a second?
Me: Idk what that means but sure.
Her: like about our feelings and stuff.
Me; sure hit me.
Her: would it have been an accident?
I know that isn't that weird but in this situation it floored me. Here I am in a situation with a lower end but mildly attractive girl who I originally was going to friendzone ask me if us doing stuff was gonna be an accident and couldn't answer because I really didn't even know wtf was going on or if it was or wasn't. Bitchy post but of all the girl things that have happened to me recently, this one floored me and made me question myself the hardest.
Any thoughts? Now I have this weird ego attachment thing about whether or not I could fuck her and don't know what to do. Like it seriously fucked with my head that I didn't end up doing anything with her... Weird bitchy behavior on my part, but I'm looking for answers related to presence and improvement more than dating advice on this one. Although dating advice for the future wouldn't hurt.
Tue, 04/23/2013 - 08:47
#1
Not sure if I got this right.
Not sure if I got this right. You didn't originally want to fuck her but now your ego is tripping because you didn't and you are not sure if you're able (worthy enough) to fuck her ?
Also you said you wanted to just befriend her. Why? If she's only mildly attractive what is the gain? Is she that cool of a chick?
If no why would you even hang out with her alone and lay with her in bed if you don't want to do anything with her.
Kinda sounds to me like you're not sure about your own intentions. Maybe you tricked yourself into saying you just gonns friendzone her because your too high value or something and deep down you kinda wanted to hook up and now that she gave you resistance Your ego is hurt.
She obviously picked up on this. That's why she is saying "i don't want to be an accident" . You were indecisive and actually set up the frame of it being an accident.
At least that's what I'm getting from your post. But I might be wrong.
So decide what you actually want from this girl and act accordingly.
Also you said you wanted to just befriend her. Why? If she's only mildly attractive what is the gain? Is she that cool of a chick?
If no why would you even hang out with her alone and lay with her in bed if you don't want to do anything with her.
Kinda sounds to me like you're not sure about your own intentions. Maybe you tricked yourself into saying you just gonns friendzone her because your too high value or something and deep down you kinda wanted to hook up and now that she gave you resistance Your ego is hurt.
She obviously picked up on this. That's why she is saying "i don't want to be an accident" . You were indecisive and actually set up the frame of it being an accident.
At least that's what I'm getting from your post. But I might be wrong.
So decide what you actually want from this girl and act accordingly.
Tue, 04/23/2013 - 18:15
#2
Very good analysis based on
Very good analysis based on the information haha. Youre right about the all the gay ass ego trip stuff, turns out theres an ex-boyfriend in this whole mix that she kinda mindfucked herself over.
Answer is simple for me now... I'mma just break that barrier and do eeet.
Answer is simple for me now... I'mma just break that barrier and do eeet.