can you really be alpha ?
the question is this
i was bullied in school costantly
i had panic attacts at 16
i had virtually no friends
now when my life is going good i find that i can get a girlfriend ,but i become beta and lose iher.
i mean i can be confident somewhat but there are times i regress to my childhood and get panic attacks
has anybody have success with staying confident 100% without regressing
Abandon this victim mentality man
1)Bullied
2)No friends
3)Panic Attacks
We’ve all been through similar shit. Get over it and yourself is what you need to hear.
Yea you can be confident and awesome all the time but its also not nornal to always be 100% cool. You’re human, not an alien space cyborg.
Your obviously new to the forum so you should know, this is a legit forum filled to the brim with guys who are killing it and guys who are learning how to kill it. We don’t pity ourselves. We recognize our mistakes, seek guidance, then go out and apply it.
If you want to improve, start by giving us more information about your situation instead of asking a generic af question “Can you be confident all the time” - Google can answer that. Its obvious.
The real question is this - Do you want to grow in your ability to be a seduce woman and be a man that woman fucking crave? Do you want to be conquering life and firing on all cylinders? Bringing the best of yourself to everything you do? Success, wealth, sex, love, all that goodness?
Then step up and let go of this whiny shit. You’re in the right place
the thing is i have stepped up
i do get attraction from the open
but after a while i feel like an imposter ....if you understand what i mean
That’s ridiculous. You shouldn’t feel like an impostor. You’re letting this past idea of you being undesirable to women affect your present ability to effectively seduce women. Chicks are responding well to you, you can’t fake that. Stop letting yourself believe you’re not worthy or somehow a fraud, that’s nonsense.
If they like you they like you. I recommend Practicing the Power of Now if you haven’t already started it. 20min a day, get the audio.
That’s ridiculous. You shouldn’t feel like an impostor. You’re letting this past idea of you being undesirable to women affect your present ability to effectively seduce women. Chicks are responding well to you, you can’t fake that. Stop letting yourself believe you’re not worthy or somehow a fraud, that’s nonsense.
If they like you they like you. I recommend Practicing the Power of Now if you haven’t already started it. 20min a day, get the audio.
Everyone has insecurities man. Also the older I got the more I realized that virtually 99% of society have them.
The problem with you is that you can make this a self fufilled prophecy. Becauze I am this I must be this. Never think you are cut from a different cloth than others! Anything can be learned and your past can sometimes be looked at and laughed at. I think you just have to be cool with it. I tell girls of my past insecurities and they are actually really sympathetic toward it or say something like “awww “ Ive done this after fucking some chicks who I was close with. People honor that you are vulnerable but even more so that you can look back on it and say yea Im past that Im a conpletley different person and actually it was totally ok that stufff happened to me.
Everyones got issues in the past and some much much worse than yours. You need to dissacosiate your past from who you really are. Your self image image of yourself is tainted by you! A book that completely changed my life that I am now re-reading is called Psycho Cybernetics. I believe that in your current state this might be the best resource for you at the moment