Manwhore's comment on rsd gave me a mini epiphany
Mon, 05/20/2013 - 18:16
OP on rsdnation was saying how he had no reaction to girls complimenting his looks. He ascribed it to knowing his looks won't get him laid so he doesn't care if she compliments his looks but would rather her see his confidence.
Manwhore replies: " Your interpretation of of your headspace is a low-conscious, low value one. What you are experiencing is actually the mental behavior of someone who is internally validated. You are right where you need to be, but your ego doesn't know it yet. Keep on truckin', homey. You're on the right track.
As far as getting laid, that's a skill set, not a source of validation. So just practice the skill set, figure out what part you're not getting down right, and practice it until you figure it all out and can get laid consistently with the kinds of girls you want."
The past year or so I've really noticed a change internally with how women affect me. When I was 19 I would get so wrapped up in my emotions I felt with girls. I could exude masculine polarity by passing shit tests, leading and shit but my emotions would still be tied to theirs. Idk really how else to explain it. It was a beta acting alpha. I had dumb feelings and I could (sometimes) act around them.
I started noticing the past yearish an internal shift. I still have empathy and feel strong emotions but there was definitely an internal shift that went on. I'm in control now. As manwhores reply said I'm experiencing the mental behavior of someone internally validated. My relationships with females are amazing now. I am the boss daddy in them.
When I started noticing the change in myself I didn't really know what was going on. I had some great relationships but rationalized they weren't THAT great since they didn't provide me with the same overwhelming feelings. I know that was wrong and beta. But at least I know how women feel with guys like us ;) I still feel strong emotions, this is all from the guy who almost cried with my girl a few weeks ago, just the feelings are in check and coming from the right place.
Manwhore replies: " Your interpretation of of your headspace is a low-conscious, low value one. What you are experiencing is actually the mental behavior of someone who is internally validated. You are right where you need to be, but your ego doesn't know it yet. Keep on truckin', homey. You're on the right track.
As far as getting laid, that's a skill set, not a source of validation. So just practice the skill set, figure out what part you're not getting down right, and practice it until you figure it all out and can get laid consistently with the kinds of girls you want."
The past year or so I've really noticed a change internally with how women affect me. When I was 19 I would get so wrapped up in my emotions I felt with girls. I could exude masculine polarity by passing shit tests, leading and shit but my emotions would still be tied to theirs. Idk really how else to explain it. It was a beta acting alpha. I had dumb feelings and I could (sometimes) act around them.
I started noticing the past yearish an internal shift. I still have empathy and feel strong emotions but there was definitely an internal shift that went on. I'm in control now. As manwhores reply said I'm experiencing the mental behavior of someone internally validated. My relationships with females are amazing now. I am the boss daddy in them.
When I started noticing the change in myself I didn't really know what was going on. I had some great relationships but rationalized they weren't THAT great since they didn't provide me with the same overwhelming feelings. I know that was wrong and beta. But at least I know how women feel with guys like us ;) I still feel strong emotions, this is all from the guy who almost cried with my girl a few weeks ago, just the feelings are in check and coming from the right place.
Mon, 05/20/2013 - 20:33
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Interesting stuff man, great
Interesting stuff man, great to hear of your success. I'm defintely stuck in that beta pretending to be alpha stage,feels weird, but I guess it's fake it till you make it.
I had an awful day today, didn't have the energy to push myself, and just fell into a depressed beta state. I was thinking a lot about validation. I noticed that my internal validation is depending on my success with women, unfortunately I haven't had any success, which is leaving me internally fucked up. It's a vicious cyle, and I don't fully understand it. If this is even makes sense....I believe buddhagames had a similar post a whole back discussing how he was emotionally attached to his success.
I had an awful day today, didn't have the energy to push myself, and just fell into a depressed beta state. I was thinking a lot about validation. I noticed that my internal validation is depending on my success with women, unfortunately I haven't had any success, which is leaving me internally fucked up. It's a vicious cyle, and I don't fully understand it. If this is even makes sense....I believe buddhagames had a similar post a whole back discussing how he was emotionally attached to his success.