Does It Really Matter, "If she's down to fuck"
I kick it with some solid "naturals" - I actually hate that word, but for convenience sake, it's the easiest to use on the forums.
Anyway, one thing I'll hear a lot is, "Yo, I'm pretty sure she's dtf" or one of my buddies will show me a text convo and be like, "What do you think man, is she down to fuck?"
-Just in case, you're ever around me - I'll say yes to this question, 99.9% of the time, if you ask me.
But the point of this post is really to simply ask - does it matter if her intentions are to fuck you?
For example: You meet a gal and then set up a day2 - Does it matter if shes thinking to herself, going into the date, "I wanna fuck this guy", or, more basic, does it matter if she's even just thinking, "This guys kinda cute"
Another Example: You've had on and off, very brief conversations with the smoking hot "new girl" at work, and out of nowhere she hits you up on gchat and starts tryna set up plans to go out and get hammered with you on the weekend - does it matter if she's thinking to herself, "This guy's cute, I'd be down to fuck him", as opposed to, "He seems cool, I wanna be friends" - does it matter?
The answer to all of this, is CLEARLY a RESOUNDING............ NO. FUCK NO.
I mean, realistically, a lot of the time I don't even know if I wanna fuck the girl, before we've had time to kick it together.
But I think that, at least for me, I'll get caught up in this whole idea, of like, how DOWN the girl is, sexually, before we go on a date or before we go out- like I'll analyze the convo to see how invested she is, or if she was trying to play the whole thing off as a friend, or if she was being pretty flirtatious or whatever
But what's the point of this - I mean, it just doesn't matter at all, right?
If we have any faith in the concept of seduction - it doesn't matter. Attraction is not a choice. Girls never know what they want, sexually - so it's our job to show them.
As long as we get the meetup- it's fucking GO TIME. We play the game the smae way- obviously calibrating for the situation, but we don't react to how "into us" we feel the girl is, or how "sexually down" the girl seems, prior to the date
Obviously - you calibrate... like if the girl is cool to just get fucked within 2 minutes - go for it.... but that's not the point of this post.
The point is that asking the questions, "How dtf is she" - well, that's a stupid question and has no bearing on anything that's going to happen.
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My boy was over at my house last year and I told him I was about to go meet up with a girl at a club, he asked me if she was down for fucking I told him, "Nig I don't care if she thinks I'm showing up to have a tea party, we're going to fuck." We did
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Good article - you can write your ass off.
In my book if a girl has tolerated my bullshit for 10 to 15 minutes, she's ABSOLUTELY down to fuck.
They're all down to fuck, boyfriends, engaged, married.
It's just logistics that are the great equalizer. Sometimes you need the reference experience to believe this, but after some deep convos with married men fuckin chicks on the side, and etc etc.
I screen a lot faster than you btw Buddah :) I know within 5 minutes whether this girl will be a total pain in the ass/waste of time OR if we're going to hit it off. Age and personality/vibe/intelligence consciously are quickly analyzed, i think subconsciously after 15 minutes, I take another glimpse to see what they're wearing, analyze what sort of vibe are they putting out into the world.
I don't care if she's down to fuck, AM I DOWN TO FUCK?
Fuck, something I struggled with for the longest is frames. These bitches have like the weakest realities, very few girls have gone thru what we've gone through, haven't crawled through the mud, have BARELY pushed their comfort zone one bit if at all.
Crazy it takes us so long to learn how to talk to idiots. This is why I think I don't even want to spend more than 3 hours in the club, 95% of these people are idiots.
Good article - you can write your ass off.In my book if a girl has tolerated my bullshit for 10 to 15 minutes, she's ABSOLUTELY down to fuck.
They're all down to fuck, boyfriends, engaged, married.
It's just logistics that are the great equalizer. Sometimes you need the reference experience to believe this, but after some deep convos with married men fuckin chicks on the side, and etc etc.
I screen a lot faster than you btw Buddah :) I know within 5 minutes whether this girl will be a total pain in the ass/waste of time OR if we're going to hit it off. Age and personality/vibe/intelligence consciously are quickly analyzed, i think subconsciously after 15 minutes, I take another glimpse to see what they're wearing, analyze what sort of vibe are they putting out into the world.
I don't care if she's down to fuck, AM I DOWN TO FUCK?
Fuck, something I struggled with for the longest is frames. These bitches have like the weakest realities, very few girls have gone thru what we've gone through, haven't crawled through the mud, have BARELY pushed their comfort zone one bit if at all.
Crazy it takes us so long to learn how to talk to idiots. This is why I think I don't even want to spend more than 3 hours in the club, 95% of these people are idiots.
On the topic of screening - your SO ON POINT - what the fuck does screening even me? I don't think I ever screen - Like I never pay attention to any of the shit you mentioned lol...
Jesus, how is it possible that I have such decent game and yet there are all of these like crazy huge sticking points that come up lol - I don't even know what "screening" really means
We all screen - is she HOT or NOT? After that it's based on personality.
I'm pretty sure you screen on personality - you dont' realize it. But then again, me and you are into different kinds of girls and we're not the same person. I want to expedite the "we have chemistry" process as quickly as possible. This is when I run the best game.
I'm more quirky than you, so girls either LOVE me or HATE me. It's like when she visits my island, it's some experience that no other guy can offer her. I'm also like really forthcoming in my qualities. I quickly convey I'm inteligent, have a fucked up sense of humor, kinda nerdy (although girls find it really hard to believe), very counter-culturish.
Screening simply put is basically figuring out how this girl will fit into YOUR life short/long-term.
If it's a chick after the short-term - is she comfortable with her sexuality, adventurous etc? I'm not asking "so tell me are you adventerous" maybe I'm smacking her ass or saying some fucked up shit and gauging how she can tolerate it. Going for the bathroom pull if the situation calls for it. Does she take herself too seriously? Is she annoying to be around? Is she a dumb 21 year old that follows her friends around or can she make her own decisions?
Long-term - is this girl educated, intelligent, understanding of my sense of humor, is she a stupid politically correct ho, or an unfiltered chick with some sense of self. If she loves it, sure hop onaboard the Katalyst express, if not jump off because this train is going to keep moving. What does she do, how did she grow up? Does she smoke? Can she kiss well? What are her ambitions? Politiical views? Similar tastes in music? Would she be down to have a 3 some? Does she have a passport or does she think America is the only country in the world? Is she politically correct or willing to laugh at the absurdity around us?
I crack stupid jokes all the time and not too many girls can tolerate shit like "I'm going to consensually rape you" or "You're making my pussy wet". This is obviously done with some calibration and not always immediately said but if I'm going to spend 2 to 3 hours of my life with someone, I have to ENJOY it. Guys like me you are way too good to waste 2-3 hours with a chick for the reference experience. Nothing beats hours of sex with a girl you truly connect with. That's screening.
If you really break this having no filter shit down, the girl has to be smart, open-minded and cool enough to get where I'm coming from. I feel like I wasn't able to write this until recently when I found a girl that complemented my personality so fuckin well, it was beyond refreshing. Made me realize what I want in a woman long-term.
It's really great, I meet like the most awesome chicks of late now. They're either really really intelligent OR psycho/edgy.
I hope every girl you pull or date you enjoy being around.
Btw I'm forcing myself to go to douchey bars ath the moment because I'm one-dimensional in that aspect that I've been solely been relying on coolness to get laid. I want to fuck girls solely based on subcomms rather than witty verbals.
I hate 90% of girls who go to these douchey bars, just shows she has poor taste in where she chooses to hang out. But I want to work on my subcomms.
You can almost call this another limiting belief. I ve hit myself over the head so many times over stopping wondering whether a girl was dtf its painful
Girls will let you get away with a helluva lot more than I used to think they will. If she doesn't like something you do, like you smack her bottom, she'll just leave and you never see them again. OH WELL! ...Don't want her if I can't smack her bottom!
Obviously there are setting where you wouldn't do that though. Like in front of her family etc.
In my experience, worrying about whether she's DTF or not, is totally irrelevant.
If she's around... she's DTF. If not, don't worry about it cowboy. You'll just waste your time.