Thoughts On Patience: Understanding the Elements of a successful pick BUT not rushing them
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 21:30
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Oh- and props to me- I have OFFICIALLY COMPLETED my 30 day challenge : ) Feels Good Man
This is a topic that I'm fairly interested in, based off of some stuff that happened last night. I'd love to get a conversation going on how this plays a roll in a successful pickup.
Basically- I personally, noticed myself rushing the interaction. It's almost like, once you know what you need to do in any given set, like once you know what the stages are and what the different elements of a pickup look like, you kinda start to try and "Force" these elements into the interaction.
Like, does anyone else notice themselves trying to "force" attraction, and then getting a weird reaction from the girl, like, "Why are you staring at me"... ha! Too funny, lol so I got that one last night, then I also got another one from a girl last night who goes, "Do you ever blink?" lmfao!... derp
I think the reason I got this was because I was trying to "Force" attraction... rather than just giving eye contact, from a place of being a solid dude with a story to tell.
Like here's the thing, when I'm in the zone and talking about shit that I'm passionate about, as the girl from two nights ago said, "I'm an incredible man"... I'm unique... I'm smart as fuck, attractive, charasmatic, successful, accepting of myself, non-judgemental, positive, supporting of others... I have all the qualities of a seriously ALPHA guy... But here's the thing- It's now time to get to a point where I really UNDERSTAND this about myself and can just consistently express this and convey it.
Anyway- back to the topic at hand...
So yeah- I found myself, last night, trying to FORCE the different elements of a successful pickup.
I was trying to "Force" attraction
I was RUSHING to "lead" the girl
I was RUSHING to "isolate" the girl
I was RUSHING to get physical
That's the pitfall I found myself in last night... I was RUSHING every part of the interaction and then getting buthurt when it wasn't working....
What do you guys think? I feel like patience is just so important for this stuff.
Oh- and props to me- I have OFFICIALLY COMPLETED my 30 day challenge : ) Feels Good Man
This is a topic that I'm fairly interested in, based off of some stuff that happened last night. I'd love to get a conversation going on how this plays a roll in a successful pickup.
Basically- I personally, noticed myself rushing the interaction. It's almost like, once you know what you need to do in any given set, like once you know what the stages are and what the different elements of a pickup look like, you kinda start to try and "Force" these elements into the interaction.
Like, does anyone else notice themselves trying to "force" attraction, and then getting a weird reaction from the girl, like, "Why are you staring at me"... ha! Too funny, lol so I got that one last night, then I also got another one from a girl last night who goes, "Do you ever blink?" lmfao!... derp
I think the reason I got this was because I was trying to "Force" attraction... rather than just giving eye contact, from a place of being a solid dude with a story to tell.
Like here's the thing, when I'm in the zone and talking about shit that I'm passionate about, as the girl from two nights ago said, "I'm an incredible man"... I'm unique... I'm smart as fuck, attractive, charasmatic, successful, accepting of myself, non-judgemental, positive, supporting of others... I have all the qualities of a seriously ALPHA guy... But here's the thing- It's now time to get to a point where I really UNDERSTAND this about myself and can just consistently express this and convey it.
Anyway- back to the topic at hand...
So yeah- I found myself, last night, trying to FORCE the different elements of a successful pickup.
I was trying to "Force" attraction
I was RUSHING to "lead" the girl
I was RUSHING to "isolate" the girl
I was RUSHING to get physical
That's the pitfall I found myself in last night... I was RUSHING every part of the interaction and then getting buthurt when it wasn't working....
What do you guys think? I feel like patience is just so important for this stuff.
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 22:14
#1
the Elements of a successful pick BUT not rushing them
@buddhagames:
Hahahah dude I get that so much. You become reaction seeking once you learn a little trick or funny joke you try to do it again. But I just watched Alex's two hour video for the second time. But this time I took notes and was giving it my full attention and he talks about this 100%!! Go watch it again, it's sooo amazing.
Flipping through my notes of it he says patience is needed, the girl will open up sexually after TIME as a result of you just being there, taking action and creating initiave. You have to enjoy just being there and taking action, soaking in her feminine energy and putting up with girls normal retardations and she'll present herself when you make moves. Shell eventually begin to comply.
That's actually a lot of what he talks about in the video. You have to talk (your naturally arousing without doing anything so instead of trying to make an impression and get good reactions you just let her experience you). You have to endure tests. They test you but your non reactivity amps their arousal and just keep doing your thing when they test or don't comply. Ad physicality, physical rapport, being comfortable with each other.
And he emphasises the "glue" to all this is time. After time she'll become aroused. After time she'll become comfortable. After time she'll open up. Just keep taking action and being non reactive. When your not worried about time and have patience. So purposely waste time. Be pointless. Let her leave for a bit. Don't try to take the set anywhere. You just standing there and being awesome will allow her to open up and the set will go somewhere if you don't rush it.
If your thinking about this def watch that video. With a pen and paper cause their is a lot to soak in.
Also HUGE congrats on your challenge. Really awesome man
Hahahah dude I get that so much. You become reaction seeking once you learn a little trick or funny joke you try to do it again. But I just watched Alex's two hour video for the second time. But this time I took notes and was giving it my full attention and he talks about this 100%!! Go watch it again, it's sooo amazing.
Flipping through my notes of it he says patience is needed, the girl will open up sexually after TIME as a result of you just being there, taking action and creating initiave. You have to enjoy just being there and taking action, soaking in her feminine energy and putting up with girls normal retardations and she'll present herself when you make moves. Shell eventually begin to comply.
That's actually a lot of what he talks about in the video. You have to talk (your naturally arousing without doing anything so instead of trying to make an impression and get good reactions you just let her experience you). You have to endure tests. They test you but your non reactivity amps their arousal and just keep doing your thing when they test or don't comply. Ad physicality, physical rapport, being comfortable with each other.
And he emphasises the "glue" to all this is time. After time she'll become aroused. After time she'll become comfortable. After time she'll open up. Just keep taking action and being non reactive. When your not worried about time and have patience. So purposely waste time. Be pointless. Let her leave for a bit. Don't try to take the set anywhere. You just standing there and being awesome will allow her to open up and the set will go somewhere if you don't rush it.
If your thinking about this def watch that video. With a pen and paper cause their is a lot to soak in.
Also HUGE congrats on your challenge. Really awesome man
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 22:30
#2
Re: the Elements of a successful pick BUT not rushing them
@icewahine:
Yeah, what you just said... those were all my thoughts on it.
lol it's funny how when you go out and actually do this stuff... you end up coming to a lot of the same conclusions as even the experts.
Yeah, what you just said... those were all my thoughts on it.
lol it's funny how when you go out and actually do this stuff... you end up coming to a lot of the same conclusions as even the experts.
Sun, 07/22/2012 - 23:24
#3
Re: the Elements of a successful pick BUT not rushing them
@buddhagames:
I get you holmes but don't hate on yourself for this cause this game IS about consistency and not perfection.
It's why people like Tyler and Julien have rejection compilations in which they look like tryhard pua newbs in a few interactions, but over the course of the night or maybe...hell a night later on in the week, your tryhardness becomes a more natural expression of your inner state. You've just gotta have trust in the process and believe IT will come to you.
Nowadays girls will almost ALWAYS tell me i either think i'm "It" or make them feel "uncomfortable..." in a good way, when i'm all up on them staring them down. It's not even a technique, it's just that i like to see what the fuck is up with the hottie in front of me.
But DUDE, patience is SO SO important when talking to a smokin stunner - like, having the belief that the simple, mundane, everyday bullshit you talk about WILL have an effect on the girl just because it's coming from a high value man. Like dayum, i got this lesson reinforced when i was chatting up a romanian chick on the tube who looked like she could be a brazilian blonde haired pornstar, i mentioned: the dark knight rises shooting, the origin of her real name, jamaican food and dracula. Get your waffle on, eh?
I get you holmes but don't hate on yourself for this cause this game IS about consistency and not perfection.
It's why people like Tyler and Julien have rejection compilations in which they look like tryhard pua newbs in a few interactions, but over the course of the night or maybe...hell a night later on in the week, your tryhardness becomes a more natural expression of your inner state. You've just gotta have trust in the process and believe IT will come to you.
Nowadays girls will almost ALWAYS tell me i either think i'm "It" or make them feel "uncomfortable..." in a good way, when i'm all up on them staring them down. It's not even a technique, it's just that i like to see what the fuck is up with the hottie in front of me.
But DUDE, patience is SO SO important when talking to a smokin stunner - like, having the belief that the simple, mundane, everyday bullshit you talk about WILL have an effect on the girl just because it's coming from a high value man. Like dayum, i got this lesson reinforced when i was chatting up a romanian chick on the tube who looked like she could be a brazilian blonde haired pornstar, i mentioned: the dark knight rises shooting, the origin of her real name, jamaican food and dracula. Get your waffle on, eh?