HUGE Epiphany
Wed, 09/05/2012 - 08:08
Holy shit the stuff you learn from going out several times a week, instead of being a full-time keyboard jock all day.
I went out last weekend and had an epiphany that hit me like a ton of bricks. Damn the power of congruence.
I am pretty sure the Intermdiate to Advanced guys already know this, but i would like to emphasize it because that was a game changer for me all weekend long. I was stuck for the longest time not being able to consistently get day 2s and girls losing interest over the phone.
What i did with this girl is talk about the things "I" liked, with enthusiasm and open-mindedness. This meant at no point in time did i really run out of things to say or go into interview-mode. It's SO EASY to build rapport after that. This was because half the time i would be saying something the girl can relate to, then she contributes to the convo and if you can keep it up, you build a lot of attraction. Couple that with some physicality and you've set a solid foundation between you and the girl imo.
I remember several months back when i did some college day game, i would sometimes open with "Hi, i like chicken". Reactions were surprisingly positive and receptive. The girls and i would be talking about cooking, all because I portrayed it as the TRUTH (which it is). Girls can tell when you're BS'ing and walk off. But then i stopped opening with that because i thought it was retarded and tried to go all fancy. Don't over-complicate things.
Coincidentially enough, i JUST started reading Ozzie's book "The Physical game" and somewhere at the beginning he explains in detail how to stay tue to yourself by talking about your interests. So far i'm liking it so im going to keep reading. I definitel needed refinement with my encounter with girls and BEING ME.
READ IT if you haven't.
Something to play with:
Im pretty sure everyone has been at that stage where you told a girl about something YOU experience then YOU told her she has to experience it (with you hopefully)
Think of a movie for example, she's never watched it, then you tell her something along the lines of "I have that movie at home ZOMG come and watch it"
Instead you flip the script when she talks about certain things you're unfamiliar with. I have not field tested this much but it seems (considering she is already attracted to you) to pre-load the idea of hanging with you and showing you these things you're not familiar with. Just like when the girl finds out you're a virgin and is more likely to have sex with you to teach you things. I've been there.
Last weekend i met this girl, now she wants to show me music material even considerig my present sexual intent. Now SHE's the one chasing me and i made sure to keep that dynamic. Either Manwhore or Buddhagames once mentioned that some guys sometimes get chased by girls and they become idiots and do the chasing themselves. I've been there LOL.
I just have to keep playing it cool from here and escalate, but then that's another issue.
We were supposed to hang tonight but one of my buddies is showing up, it's a last minute, emergency thing. She still insists we meet so, ya have a good feeling about this.
I went out last weekend and had an epiphany that hit me like a ton of bricks. Damn the power of congruence.
I am pretty sure the Intermdiate to Advanced guys already know this, but i would like to emphasize it because that was a game changer for me all weekend long. I was stuck for the longest time not being able to consistently get day 2s and girls losing interest over the phone.
What i did with this girl is talk about the things "I" liked, with enthusiasm and open-mindedness. This meant at no point in time did i really run out of things to say or go into interview-mode. It's SO EASY to build rapport after that. This was because half the time i would be saying something the girl can relate to, then she contributes to the convo and if you can keep it up, you build a lot of attraction. Couple that with some physicality and you've set a solid foundation between you and the girl imo.
I remember several months back when i did some college day game, i would sometimes open with "Hi, i like chicken". Reactions were surprisingly positive and receptive. The girls and i would be talking about cooking, all because I portrayed it as the TRUTH (which it is). Girls can tell when you're BS'ing and walk off. But then i stopped opening with that because i thought it was retarded and tried to go all fancy. Don't over-complicate things.
Coincidentially enough, i JUST started reading Ozzie's book "The Physical game" and somewhere at the beginning he explains in detail how to stay tue to yourself by talking about your interests. So far i'm liking it so im going to keep reading. I definitel needed refinement with my encounter with girls and BEING ME.
READ IT if you haven't.
Something to play with:
Im pretty sure everyone has been at that stage where you told a girl about something YOU experience then YOU told her she has to experience it (with you hopefully)
Think of a movie for example, she's never watched it, then you tell her something along the lines of "I have that movie at home ZOMG come and watch it"
Instead you flip the script when she talks about certain things you're unfamiliar with. I have not field tested this much but it seems (considering she is already attracted to you) to pre-load the idea of hanging with you and showing you these things you're not familiar with. Just like when the girl finds out you're a virgin and is more likely to have sex with you to teach you things. I've been there.
Last weekend i met this girl, now she wants to show me music material even considerig my present sexual intent. Now SHE's the one chasing me and i made sure to keep that dynamic. Either Manwhore or Buddhagames once mentioned that some guys sometimes get chased by girls and they become idiots and do the chasing themselves. I've been there LOL.
I just have to keep playing it cool from here and escalate, but then that's another issue.
We were supposed to hang tonight but one of my buddies is showing up, it's a last minute, emergency thing. She still insists we meet so, ya have a good feeling about this.