Constantly playing at the edge: Thoughts from my first 30 day challenge
Wed, 07/18/2012 - 10:09
There's a TON that I've gained from doing this 30 day challenge (Which I have officially announced, has been raised to a 60 day challenge).
First of all- About 1.5 months ago, there was some thread about "being an approach machine" and I made a comment in it, basically saying, "Yeah... I'm not an approach machine but it's a skill I would LOVE to learn to develop"... well, folks, I can offically say- I am a bonified, approach FUCKING MACHINE.
I can approach anyone, anywhere, at any time. And not only CAN i do it... but I ACTUALLY DO IT... so, FUCK YEAH to that.
I am no longer the dude that needs like 6 shots to get his game going. In 27/28 days (not sure where exactly I'm at), I have evolved. Feels good, man.
But the one thing I am most proud of about my point in this game right now, is that I just realized, I am CONSTANTLY and I mean CONSTANTLY playing at MY edge. I am literally ALWAYS on the edge of my comfort zone... and it's just naturally where I'm putting myself.
Like there hasn't been more than 3-4 continous days in this challenge where I have let myself, "Be comfortable"... the result hasn't been that I've all of a sudden become a MASSIVE pimp... I'm not, all of a sudden, getting TONS of lays or even TONS of pulls or even TONS of hooks...
But the fact is that I am going about this THE RIGHT WAY.... as tolle says, "The HOW is more important than the WHAT"
Like, there is SO MUCH about my game that I need to improve. I am SUCH a beginner. I am SO inconsistent...
ALL OF THIS is COMPLETELY TRUE...
But, the thing is that 1) I am an approach machine, so I am getting in the amount of approaches, the amount of rejections, that I need to improve. And 2) It's like THE SECOND I am comfortable in ONE area- I'm immediately taking myself out of that area and putting myself in a different situation that is all of a sudden making me INSANELY nervous, KILLING my ego and bringing me back down to earth. It is because of THIS that I have complete faith that I will get really really good at this, in due time.
Like today, I picked up a buddy of mine's girl at the airport and we were eating at chipotle and, super casually, I started chattin up this girl who was about to leave and got her #... even my friend's girl was just like, "Nice, man"... like it wasn't creepy, it wasn't weird... it's just so like ENGRAINED in me at this point, that I literally am just doing this shit AT ALL TIMES... and it doesn't even look weird or come across "incongruent"... it's just, sorta, who I am, at this point. like I am doing this shit even when I'm around guys that are totally NOT into this shit... and they don't say anything... they'll just keep walking as I chat up a girl and then I'll run and catch up to them when I'm done and nobody says anything.. we just keep talking as if nothing happened.
But yeah- The one thing to take away from this post- ALWAYS BE PLAYING THIS GAME AT THE FUCKING EDGE, FOLKS... IT'S THE ONLY PLACE IT CAN EVEN REALLY BE PLAYED. PERIOD.
Like litearlly- just ALWAYS be doing shit that makes you feel uncomfortable, or nervous... At times it really sucks, and I've even had nights where I'm left wondering, "Why the fuck do I feel so nervous or so shitty"... but all it is, is that I'm pushing that boundary of where I'm at (and this is different for EVERYONE) and, as a result, constantly in the process of destroying the ego and preparing myself for LONG TERM success.
PLAY AT THE EDGE.
BE UNCOMFORTABLE
BE NERVOUS
KILL THE EGO
BE SUCCESSFUL
First of all- About 1.5 months ago, there was some thread about "being an approach machine" and I made a comment in it, basically saying, "Yeah... I'm not an approach machine but it's a skill I would LOVE to learn to develop"... well, folks, I can offically say- I am a bonified, approach FUCKING MACHINE.
I can approach anyone, anywhere, at any time. And not only CAN i do it... but I ACTUALLY DO IT... so, FUCK YEAH to that.
I am no longer the dude that needs like 6 shots to get his game going. In 27/28 days (not sure where exactly I'm at), I have evolved. Feels good, man.
But the one thing I am most proud of about my point in this game right now, is that I just realized, I am CONSTANTLY and I mean CONSTANTLY playing at MY edge. I am literally ALWAYS on the edge of my comfort zone... and it's just naturally where I'm putting myself.
Like there hasn't been more than 3-4 continous days in this challenge where I have let myself, "Be comfortable"... the result hasn't been that I've all of a sudden become a MASSIVE pimp... I'm not, all of a sudden, getting TONS of lays or even TONS of pulls or even TONS of hooks...
But the fact is that I am going about this THE RIGHT WAY.... as tolle says, "The HOW is more important than the WHAT"
Like, there is SO MUCH about my game that I need to improve. I am SUCH a beginner. I am SO inconsistent...
ALL OF THIS is COMPLETELY TRUE...
But, the thing is that 1) I am an approach machine, so I am getting in the amount of approaches, the amount of rejections, that I need to improve. And 2) It's like THE SECOND I am comfortable in ONE area- I'm immediately taking myself out of that area and putting myself in a different situation that is all of a sudden making me INSANELY nervous, KILLING my ego and bringing me back down to earth. It is because of THIS that I have complete faith that I will get really really good at this, in due time.
Like today, I picked up a buddy of mine's girl at the airport and we were eating at chipotle and, super casually, I started chattin up this girl who was about to leave and got her #... even my friend's girl was just like, "Nice, man"... like it wasn't creepy, it wasn't weird... it's just so like ENGRAINED in me at this point, that I literally am just doing this shit AT ALL TIMES... and it doesn't even look weird or come across "incongruent"... it's just, sorta, who I am, at this point. like I am doing this shit even when I'm around guys that are totally NOT into this shit... and they don't say anything... they'll just keep walking as I chat up a girl and then I'll run and catch up to them when I'm done and nobody says anything.. we just keep talking as if nothing happened.
But yeah- The one thing to take away from this post- ALWAYS BE PLAYING THIS GAME AT THE FUCKING EDGE, FOLKS... IT'S THE ONLY PLACE IT CAN EVEN REALLY BE PLAYED. PERIOD.
Like litearlly- just ALWAYS be doing shit that makes you feel uncomfortable, or nervous... At times it really sucks, and I've even had nights where I'm left wondering, "Why the fuck do I feel so nervous or so shitty"... but all it is, is that I'm pushing that boundary of where I'm at (and this is different for EVERYONE) and, as a result, constantly in the process of destroying the ego and preparing myself for LONG TERM success.
PLAY AT THE EDGE.
BE UNCOMFORTABLE
BE NERVOUS
KILL THE EGO
BE SUCCESSFUL
Fri, 07/20/2012 - 00:52
#1
Re: Constantly playing at the edge
@buddhagames:
i love it. you are so damn determined. We're winging this sunday in brooklyn for my bday....
i love it. you are so damn determined. We're winging this sunday in brooklyn for my bday....
Fri, 07/20/2012 - 03:26
#2
Re: Constantly playing at the edge
@Katalyst:
Done, my brutha.
I got a date in the evening but if your tryna go hard at NIGHT for your birthday... lmao, I'll cancell that shit like a true gangsta
Done, my brutha.
I got a date in the evening but if your tryna go hard at NIGHT for your birthday... lmao, I'll cancell that shit like a true gangsta