I am being a faggot... Yell at me and set me straight.
Mon, 11/05/2012 - 23:57
http://manwhore.org/forum/content/set-boundary-fuck-buddy
So same chick from ^^ this post. We are established fuck buddies and I frequently crash at her place and we cuddle and fuck in the morning before work. So anyways if you read that long ass post it's says on two seperate occasions she danced with another dude while she was out with me. Fucking gay. But I told her were not dating so I can really say who she talks to but she was with me that night and that's not cool. She thought I just wanted to hook up with her so she tried to make me jealous. I tell her I like her and we have a deep emotionally charged talk then have sex.
Just last week she was telling me stories about chodes who tried to pick her up. I was laughing my head off at what faggots do to try to get pussy. I told her without telling her why its unattractive and weird. She fully agreed and is gross out by it too. Then last night I did something really dumb. She told me to find a file on her phone and she got a text while I was on it. From one of the dudes she said was realllyyyy creepy and weird. Their convo pops up and I see shit from both of them "I miss you" and what nots and they're seeing each other for a lunch date sometime soon. Uhhh wtf? Like its not the fact she's textin other dudes I care about, we're not exclusive although I would gf her up one day. It's the fact she genuinely says these things about how weird and lame these guys are and then flirts with them and sees them.. I know she didn't have sex with this guy but its still really lame she's keeping them on the line. So it's the lack of being real and honest which makes me sick
Like she is an awesome girl and can get lots of guys but she is flirting with several of the guys she told me creep her out and she makes fun of their gay weak shit. Reads like low self esteem and neediness if you ask me
So I've been really gay all day. Wondering wtf is wrong with her and trying to detect if there's any jealousy or attachment in me. And if I should bring anything up. I won't say I saw her text but I was just thinking of screening her next time sayin how I value openness and honesty. Or just dropping it completely and just be like I never saw it.
So same chick from ^^ this post. We are established fuck buddies and I frequently crash at her place and we cuddle and fuck in the morning before work. So anyways if you read that long ass post it's says on two seperate occasions she danced with another dude while she was out with me. Fucking gay. But I told her were not dating so I can really say who she talks to but she was with me that night and that's not cool. She thought I just wanted to hook up with her so she tried to make me jealous. I tell her I like her and we have a deep emotionally charged talk then have sex.
Just last week she was telling me stories about chodes who tried to pick her up. I was laughing my head off at what faggots do to try to get pussy. I told her without telling her why its unattractive and weird. She fully agreed and is gross out by it too. Then last night I did something really dumb. She told me to find a file on her phone and she got a text while I was on it. From one of the dudes she said was realllyyyy creepy and weird. Their convo pops up and I see shit from both of them "I miss you" and what nots and they're seeing each other for a lunch date sometime soon. Uhhh wtf? Like its not the fact she's textin other dudes I care about, we're not exclusive although I would gf her up one day. It's the fact she genuinely says these things about how weird and lame these guys are and then flirts with them and sees them.. I know she didn't have sex with this guy but its still really lame she's keeping them on the line. So it's the lack of being real and honest which makes me sick
Like she is an awesome girl and can get lots of guys but she is flirting with several of the guys she told me creep her out and she makes fun of their gay weak shit. Reads like low self esteem and neediness if you ask me
So I've been really gay all day. Wondering wtf is wrong with her and trying to detect if there's any jealousy or attachment in me. And if I should bring anything up. I won't say I saw her text but I was just thinking of screening her next time sayin how I value openness and honesty. Or just dropping it completely and just be like I never saw it.
Tue, 11/06/2012 - 01:34
#1
Re: I am being a faggot... Yell at me and set me straight.
Ok this chick is wack and clearly cant be trusted... AT ALL. I wouldnt be surprised if this is more physical and scarcity seeping in from your end
I honestly wouldnt even bring it up. She isnt your gf and you say you have no intentions of dating her. Theres no point in dealing with some drama whem you know this chick is wack. Waste of time and effort. All she is, is a slam piece. This isnt an isolated incident where she lied once - this is a fucking pattern. If youre at a point where you can manage your emotions and know she'll be seeing other guys, then keep smashing, If you arent, then cut her out.
I honestly wouldnt even bring it up. She isnt your gf and you say you have no intentions of dating her. Theres no point in dealing with some drama whem you know this chick is wack. Waste of time and effort. All she is, is a slam piece. This isnt an isolated incident where she lied once - this is a fucking pattern. If youre at a point where you can manage your emotions and know she'll be seeing other guys, then keep smashing, If you arent, then cut her out.
Tue, 11/06/2012 - 02:30
#2
Re: I am being a faggot... Yell at me and set me straight.
@Aequitas:
Yeah you vocalized a few thoughts in my head about this. And that's exactly what I needed to hear. I won't cut her out. If anything I develop some jealousy or gay shit it'll be good because the pain will teach me not to be such a bitch. I've fully internalized nothing in life is good/bad and all of it makes you grow.
You said it's my physicality and scarcity making her do this? Or me perceiving it this way? Not sure what you meant by that.
Haha yeah I def won't bring up I saw her shit. I hate when ppl creep other ppls shit. But next time I catch her in a lie or fucking up I'm going to rub her nose in her own shit. I could just cut her off but I do like a bit of drama.. Shoot I hate saying that word drama after all the fluff about it on rsdnation and with Jeff but it is fun to make some extreme emotions sometimes
Yeah you vocalized a few thoughts in my head about this. And that's exactly what I needed to hear. I won't cut her out. If anything I develop some jealousy or gay shit it'll be good because the pain will teach me not to be such a bitch. I've fully internalized nothing in life is good/bad and all of it makes you grow.
You said it's my physicality and scarcity making her do this? Or me perceiving it this way? Not sure what you meant by that.
Haha yeah I def won't bring up I saw her shit. I hate when ppl creep other ppls shit. But next time I catch her in a lie or fucking up I'm going to rub her nose in her own shit. I could just cut her off but I do like a bit of drama.. Shoot I hate saying that word drama after all the fluff about it on rsdnation and with Jeff but it is fun to make some extreme emotions sometimes
Tue, 11/06/2012 - 02:31
#3
Re: I am being a faggot... Yell at me and set me straight.
@icewahine:
Oh and if it wasn't clear she's getting demoted from cherish to fb
Oh and if it wasn't clear she's getting demoted from cherish to fb
Tue, 11/06/2012 - 03:19
#4
Re: I am being a faggot... Yell at me and set me straight.
@icewahine: i said physical and scarcity. As in probably dont have other girls on lock like this.... Maybe even lack the confidence to consistently swing that caliber of girl. I mean thats on you, itll probably blow up in your face and honestly seems like youre justifying a way to attack for your bruised ego. This girl is a shit person and honestly doesnt deserve the time of day, imho.
Tue, 11/06/2012 - 08:58
#5
Re: I am being a faggot... Yell at me and set me straight.
@Aequitas: i aint immune to this shit either tho. Saw that girl tonight i was dating over summer at a volleyball game. She came up to me to say whats up and i was just weird and standoffish lol. Ive fucked a couple girls / put work in and yet there was still residual shit there. She wanted to talk too lol. Its easy to talk shit when you arent going through it / i guess i cringe seeing myself in you so i was harsh. Doesnt take anything away, i still think what i said about your girl - but you can return the favor and talj shit back. ;b Youre better than this chick tho and ya she def deserves a demotion and doesnt deserve your emotional investment.
Tue, 11/06/2012 - 15:04
#6
Re: I am being a faggot... Yell at me and set me straight.
@icewahine:
You are in a situation which I have plenty of experience in. And for all of the guys here, if you're writing full blown posts on a particular girl youve been seeing, you have strong feelings for her. If she was just a slam piece, you wouldn't even bother writing a post lol... So let's drop the nonsense and acknowledge that you do really like this girl because there's nothing faggy about that. We're all looking for love. And now I can help you.
Trust me when I say that the best course of action going forward is to drop her. She probably genuinely likes you but wants to fuck other dudes at the same time. If you were honestly cool with that, then there would be no problem. But since you obviously are attached to her, the more you let her string you along, the more it's going to piss you off and consume you.
You want her to be your girlfriend. You said it yourself. But why? Have you asked yourself that question lately? She's got your brain totally lopsided. You already know that you cant trust her so wtf man? These bitches have this power that owns the emotionally weak. You want her to love only you. But she's crazy and it's not going to happen right now. The more you stick around and be just an FWB, the higher the chance that you end up more and more pissed off and depressed. Sure, she might come around, but I don't think it's worth chasing after. But that is your decision to make. You need to decide if dropping available pussy is worth it (yes, it is. Don't be a fag and chase a crazy just because she gives you some. Been there, done that).
The fact that you want to pretend you didn't see anything means that you're afraid to stir shit up with fear of losing pussy. Think about that for awhile.
If you genuinely want her, the best course of action is next time you're with her, grab your balls and get real with her. "Look, I am committed to you but if you can't commit to me exclusively, if you cant be honest with me, then I don't want You a part of my life anymore." Yes, if you're a player this sounds gay as hell. But he obviously likes her and this is what needs to be said so he can either move on or she can seriously think about committing. But the main point to take from this is that you need to show her that you're ready to drop her at any given time if she gets out of line.
But I can tell you right now that she simply isn't looking for the same thing that you are. So be prepared to lose this girl. It's the best thing right now. Don't let her pussy keep you silent and weak. And yea it might suck, but it's natural. I friend zoned 3 fuck buddies from summer that wanted more. Ive had fuck buddies friend zone me. It's part of life. Eventually one will start having more feelings than the other. I go through phases. I've been in anti-relationship mode for about 5 months now and I don't see it ending any time soon.
Anyways just my 2 cents from my personal experience.
You are in a situation which I have plenty of experience in. And for all of the guys here, if you're writing full blown posts on a particular girl youve been seeing, you have strong feelings for her. If she was just a slam piece, you wouldn't even bother writing a post lol... So let's drop the nonsense and acknowledge that you do really like this girl because there's nothing faggy about that. We're all looking for love. And now I can help you.
Trust me when I say that the best course of action going forward is to drop her. She probably genuinely likes you but wants to fuck other dudes at the same time. If you were honestly cool with that, then there would be no problem. But since you obviously are attached to her, the more you let her string you along, the more it's going to piss you off and consume you.
You want her to be your girlfriend. You said it yourself. But why? Have you asked yourself that question lately? She's got your brain totally lopsided. You already know that you cant trust her so wtf man? These bitches have this power that owns the emotionally weak. You want her to love only you. But she's crazy and it's not going to happen right now. The more you stick around and be just an FWB, the higher the chance that you end up more and more pissed off and depressed. Sure, she might come around, but I don't think it's worth chasing after. But that is your decision to make. You need to decide if dropping available pussy is worth it (yes, it is. Don't be a fag and chase a crazy just because she gives you some. Been there, done that).
The fact that you want to pretend you didn't see anything means that you're afraid to stir shit up with fear of losing pussy. Think about that for awhile.
If you genuinely want her, the best course of action is next time you're with her, grab your balls and get real with her. "Look, I am committed to you but if you can't commit to me exclusively, if you cant be honest with me, then I don't want You a part of my life anymore." Yes, if you're a player this sounds gay as hell. But he obviously likes her and this is what needs to be said so he can either move on or she can seriously think about committing. But the main point to take from this is that you need to show her that you're ready to drop her at any given time if she gets out of line.
But I can tell you right now that she simply isn't looking for the same thing that you are. So be prepared to lose this girl. It's the best thing right now. Don't let her pussy keep you silent and weak. And yea it might suck, but it's natural. I friend zoned 3 fuck buddies from summer that wanted more. Ive had fuck buddies friend zone me. It's part of life. Eventually one will start having more feelings than the other. I go through phases. I've been in anti-relationship mode for about 5 months now and I don't see it ending any time soon.
Anyways just my 2 cents from my personal experience.
Tue, 11/06/2012 - 15:03
#7
Re: I am being a faggot... Yell at me and set me straight.
@Jeff:
Yo I gotta be quick now but just to clarify I DON'T want to date this chick. I would consider it but.. Meh. That's actually the one thing that separates me and these other dudes - I don't give a shit. Like sure she may want to fuck other guys but the 3-4 she's told me about who she calls "gay little boys" she doesn't have sex with. She just flirts and talks to them which is worse IMO cause she's just using them for validation or some weird shit.
The reason I was pissed off at this shit is because she is being two faced and dishonest. Next time something like this comes up you'd better believe she's getting called out. For now she is demoted to nothing but slam peice unless she shows otherwise. It's a shame because I do like her and want her to be happy and not a needy weirdo but.. Nothing I can do about that.
Thanks dudes. Your just echoing my thoughts but I needed this since anyone else who knows her and I've talked to about it gives a chode way of thinking. I needed to here some cool dudes thoughts
Yo I gotta be quick now but just to clarify I DON'T want to date this chick. I would consider it but.. Meh. That's actually the one thing that separates me and these other dudes - I don't give a shit. Like sure she may want to fuck other guys but the 3-4 she's told me about who she calls "gay little boys" she doesn't have sex with. She just flirts and talks to them which is worse IMO cause she's just using them for validation or some weird shit.
The reason I was pissed off at this shit is because she is being two faced and dishonest. Next time something like this comes up you'd better believe she's getting called out. For now she is demoted to nothing but slam peice unless she shows otherwise. It's a shame because I do like her and want her to be happy and not a needy weirdo but.. Nothing I can do about that.
Thanks dudes. Your just echoing my thoughts but I needed this since anyone else who knows her and I've talked to about it gives a chode way of thinking. I needed to here some cool dudes thoughts
Tue, 11/06/2012 - 15:12
#8
Re: I am being a faggot... Yell at me and set me straight.
@icewahine:
Fair enough. What I said is good advice for anyone caught in a situation with a crazy. It's just that I've seen this situation over and over and over and over again and I am providing you with a solution you can take. If you think you can leave her in just slam piece mode, then by all means do it. But you've written multiple posts on her, you're invested in her. Again, no one has questions or writes posts about girls they're just fucking on the side. Why? Because we have no emotional investments in them. We don't really care about them! So we don't invest an hour writing about them asking questions. So I mean I just don't believe you lol I think you really like her. And I hope my advice can help your situation.
Fair enough. What I said is good advice for anyone caught in a situation with a crazy. It's just that I've seen this situation over and over and over and over again and I am providing you with a solution you can take. If you think you can leave her in just slam piece mode, then by all means do it. But you've written multiple posts on her, you're invested in her. Again, no one has questions or writes posts about girls they're just fucking on the side. Why? Because we have no emotional investments in them. We don't really care about them! So we don't invest an hour writing about them asking questions. So I mean I just don't believe you lol I think you really like her. And I hope my advice can help your situation.