Tinder selfie girl
After some break back in the text game madness, here to smash my ego and learn haha
Me: well, well, tindering around at night instead of bed time... (there was a bit of playing with the words which got lost by the translation here...)
Her: Yeah :)
next day:
Me: I can see your photographer is clearly on vacation :P (she had only selfies)
Her: Well yes :)
Me: At least it's clear which one you are haha
Me: What are you up to on the lost sock day?
next day:
Her: it is today :)
Her: I met up with some friends and was studying.
Her: You?
Me: I had a killer training, was sleeping like a baby after
Her: What kind of training? :)
2 days later (I know... I even got a girl delete me bc I didn't answer for 2 days. .- there's just too many things going on which is a good excuse to bitch out on tinder...)
Me: BJJ. I got injured yesterday
Me: at least I have time to text now...
Her: Oh, hope it's not serious
Me: Just enough so I could test your nursing skills
Her: If I had those :D
Me: I'll shove it in you like in Matrix
Me: Just don't curl the spoon in my mouth lol
Her: Ok :)
20 min later
Me: How's your weekend going
1 hour later
Her: workin...
Depending on the answer I was planning to seed a meetup either directly to me or for later when I'm up and running. But it's quite a shitty answer, so I am thinking about addressing it. I know it can be a fine line here. She was also asking but so far...
Alternatively, I could just tease here a bit about something, like there was a festival this week at the uni -
something like "ehh you drank all your money at the festival. I figured you all out..."
Your thoughts?
Bruh whats the hold up here get the numm. Her responses are very positive you don't need to do much of anything. Segway into a number close first though.
Try this:
Me: On a weekend? They got you trapped in a cage dont they. You poor thing :p
After her resposne to this we're gonna segway and then get the num. Report back
"I'll shove it in you like the matrix" - Her: Ok :)
^^This should be easy dude lol
Anything bono?
yeah I secretly hoped there'll be more from the shoving line haha
Thanks, I did want to text her your msg, but it was rather weird after translating. But also not really happy with my version.
Me: on the weekend? You spent too much on the festival, didn't you. You poor thing :P
Her: :)
Me: Let's leave the crazy world of tinder. WhatsApp?
This was like 6 hours ago, she always answered like within an hour so far.
I'll probably hit her up with a simple "...?" in the morning or go with the matrix theme and "ah you want to make a phone booth exit? then hurry up girl"
Oh...what language do you speak? And you changed it to festival? DUDE lol. That makes absolutely no sense. She said she was at "work", I used cage because it makes it seem like she's trapped there and can't have any fun. That type of stuff. Festival is completely opposite of that.
Bon my guy, i said to report back with whatever she said. You weren't supposed to send another message after that. I precisely said "segway" not ask her just yet...also, no, I wouldn't send either of those follow up texts to get the number. Not gonna work.
If she just sends a smiley face, then the move would've been to tease her for a better response, "get her invested, THEN get the number. Just sending a smiley face is the least common demoniator thing she could do to respond to you. There's no way she'd give you a num after that or any sort of compliance.
Does all that make sense?
thanks man, yeah it's quite clear now.
I hang up on the cage thing but could've crafted so many things with the same vibe. and then still tried to incorporate somehow your message but completely lost the point. derp.
yeah I posted this whole convo as I thought there was not enough investment from her side, now it's true...
I'll just go and with some reengagement tmr then.
Now I really have the reason that I had in the first post but I also had a failed and stupid number attempt. So she just gives these little answers, just the minimum to keep me going.
So I think I should change the dynamics. And as opposed to the first post now I have more sample of this trend so can call her out on it more effectively. What do you think? Of course, with better texts I would've received better answers I guess.
Me: When you start to worry that you left your cell in the kitchen and you can barely walk, but it lays on your chest... (I know a bit lame, but was funny IRL)
Her: Sorry but I haven't got much time this week for tinder
Me: Well, tell your professor that you need to chat with me, you can take the exams anytime ;)
Her: If it was like that
Me: I limp in and smack on the table with my crutches. That's it.
Her: :) Yeah
Me: how's your day going? I'm waiting for a Swedish buddy rn
Her: Great. (literally exciting, but this is a better translation imo)
Her: Omw to work
Me: Too much work girl. Do they give a bonus limo service with champagne or sth
Her: Yeah :)
So I just went on (working on my texting patience lol) and assumed her answers are positive as Jihad said as well in the beginning. But as he pointed out at the smiley answer, it's very minimal and that won't work for making the next step.
So I'm thinking about snapping her out of this mode.
like
Me: and judging by your lame texts they also keep you on a lace lol
Her: Sorry but I haven't got much time this week for tinder
^^She gave you an opening for the number. Ofcourse she isn't going ot be giving you good responses, she's busy and you didn't pick up the cue that she is. Keep up with where she's at so you know how to progress or you risk showcasing a lack of attention to her situation and feelings.
Send this:
Me: Ok clearly you're busy with work and can only send me one word responses to keep me interested lol ;) I know you told me earlier but just had to verify. Chicks are cray these days. Work could've also been top secret code for getting your nails done :p Lol shoot me your num or txt me then i'm getting too busy for tinder XXX-XXX-XXXX
But ya at some point, one word responses aren't gonna cut it. The bright side is that one word responses are better than no responses. She's still pretty positive with you. You gott itt.
cool shit, thanks, really appreciate it.
What do you mean here thou? I don't get it.
" or txt me then i'm getting too busy for tinder XXX-XXX-XXXX"
Omg this is so tedious lol
cool shit, thanks, really appreciate it.What do you mean here thou? I don't get it.
" or txt me then i'm getting too busy for tinder XXX-XXX-XXXX"
Bonobo what language do you speak lol you're translating these messages?
I mean give her your number as an option so she can shoot you a text first. Thats why it says "Or text me then"
Sry, was a bit tired...
English would be so much easier with more commas haha - I read it like 'text me, then i'm getting busy.... '- and was what's going on here lol.
In German there are commas after like every 3rd word lol
she didn't answer nor hit me up btw. I'll google my number when this goes on like this lol