Self Respect and Self Love... Masculine/Feminine Polarity Within Ourselves: Stop Demanding and Start Creating

The way I see it - For me, I want to strive to be as "centered" as possible. This means, having a balance of feminine and masculine within me. Too much masculinity and you're one of those like crazy macho guys that has this like total lack of connection with women, and too much feminine and you're a little faggot bitch, plain and simple. 


Self Respect  = Masculine 



Self Love = Feminine 



It's sorta this combination of negative/positive, or another way to put it would be a balance between "Firm" and "Soft" - I see self love as embodying this idea of "acceptance", and self respect as embodying this idea of relating to life firmly and mantaining an unwaivering sense of what is right/wrong, especially with regards to how you treat yourself and how others treat you. 

I had recently had some anger come to the surface and decided to direct this shit at my dad and confronted him about some bullshit. But what I realized is that I had to take responsibility for my own shit. What I was confronting my father about, was something that I felt was lacking in ME - it had NOTHING TO DO with him. I saw a lack in MYSELF, that I haven't accepted yet and I basically just wanted to find someone to yell at about it. I wanted to scream at the world for not automatically giving me what I felt I lacked.

I was demanding from the world that which I wouldn't give myself... I was like a little kid throwing a tantrum because I wans't getting what I wanted and I refused to take responsibility and just do it myself. I wanted it handed to me. I wanted to go back in time and demand that everything be perfectly handed to me on a silver platter. 

We do this with women, fellas - you bet your ASS we do this with women. We demand that they love us and demand that they fall for us - but we're projecting our own bullshit onto them when we do this. We demand that they love us becuase we don't love ourselves, and in doing so, we refuse to take responsibility for our own bullshit and project it out into the world. 

We demand that the world shows us love and respect (Most often, love from women and respect from men) - and in doing so we let go of any responsibility and scream at the world to handle it for us. You want to stop getting amogged? Show yourself some respect. You want to fuck a couple new girls a month? Start showing yourself some love. 

When we learn to respect AND love ourselves, only then, will the world respond in kind... and it certainly won't be because you demanded it, but rather because you stopped asking, took responsibility for it, and did it yourself. 

The more you begin to respect and love yourself - the more the world will return the favor. 

Infact, I would argue that simply by learning to truly respect yourself, your results with women would get to a point where you would no longer have any need or desire to be a part of the community. You'd move onto other endeavours and women would simply be a cool side-thing in your life that you don't have to think about too much.