Review of Tolle after 5 weeks of MW training
Currently through 5 weeks of the MW training, however this article is going to focus only on Tolle and how it relates to inner game. If any of the following apply to you, I would recommend reading this and also taking some immediate action:
Awesome dude! Great article. Can you go a little bit into the techniques and strategies you've used to overcome your old conditioning/mental wiring? Of course this is not to replace immersing yourself in the Tolle audio, but just to give guys a general direction to head in once they do.
Also go into the initial wrong conclusion you formed about "presence" and active mindfulness. That was a big one
Replacing the old wiring / thoughts:
A lot of this can be contributed to the drills that take place during the MW training, which i obviously will not post here, however they really work well. Aside from that though, there are a few major keys to the tolle techniques
- First, you have to start accepting the fact that you are NOT your mind. The random intrusive thoughts, old wiring etc, is your mind doing what it wants to. You can absolutely accept some of the random thoughts it throws out, especially if it happens to be positive, however you can also chose to reject and not identify with whatever mental track is spinning at the moment
- Second, you have to work on observing the thoughts as they pop up. It’s basically like you would jump into your own head, sit on a park bench, and grab a beer. While you are sitting on the bench you see some old ass negative thought walk by that has been walking around forever. In the past, that old thought you cause you to freak out, spill your beer on yourself and go all panic mode. However now that you know you are not your mind, you just sit on your bench, sip your beer, and watch the thought walk right on by. The more you simply “observe” these thoughts, the weaker and less frequent they get.
- Third, you must start opening up small pockets of a “still mind”. When you are first trying this it is not ikely to quiet down your thoughts for more than 5 minutes at a time. Tolle talks about this on the audio book and i thought he was full of shit... turns out he is not. For our whole lives we have let our minds go on hyperdrive, so to quiet the mind down for even a few minutes is very tough. However, each time you do it, it becomes a bit longer and a bit easier. Very much baby steps though.
- Last, but probably most important. You have to put your mind to work for YOU. In an effort to rewire 20 some odd years of negative thoughts, i have started flooding my mind with positive affirmations, positive thoughts, and general appreciations for things. I don’t want to shut off my mind totally, i want it to be constantly helping propel me in a positive direction, versus a negative one. This step is VERY hard because as people, we are mean as shit to ourselves. It feels weird at first, but now i really enjoy finding ways to compliment or just be nice to myself.
My initial mistake on presence: In our training this week, Jon called me out for not really understanding what “presence” was 5 weeks in. I had included in my write up that for the first time this week i realized that presence actually means that when i am in an social situation, i am engaging and talking freely with everyone else around me. Most of my life i was the guy who would be sitting there with a beer and at times, just not saying shit, in my head the whole time.
Why I misjudged this though was for a legitimate reason. When i started Tolle i realized very quickly that my head was absolutely jam packed with negative thought tracks and limiting beliefs, so i needed to work on quieting my mind when i was simply by myself. Once i was able to start improving that area i was then able to translate it to quieting my mind in public.... this lead to actually being present.
Great. How has this lead to you being able to execute better?
As far as execution it helps in a few areas:
-Any of you who watched one of the GOAT shows growing up (Saved by the bell) will remember that when things get crazy zack Morris would pause everything and figure out what he needed to do / do it. Using tolle kind of gives you that Zach Morris ability in that it allows you to “freeze” the craziness of your mental chatter and just focus on the task at hand. While i am still working on my game, i have found that being able to clear my head during conversations and approaches makes it wayyyyy less stressful
-I have also found that by using this i have the ability to pick up on small details a lot easier such as body language, vocal tone, etc. It also allows me to be a lot more quick on my feet and access the inner witty / smart ass that can be buried when your stress levels are high
One other small thing i forgot to include above is that if any of you are just starting out with this i would also recommend incorporating 1-2 days of yoga with this. I lift 5x a week but have never touched yoga up until about 2 months ago. However, one of the best ways to calm down your mind (along with the tolle techniques) is to lower your stress levels. 10-15 mins twice a week will loosen you up big time and will actually point out how many pckets of stress exist throughout your body that you have been carrying around for years. The way i have viewed it is that calming the mind + calming the body is all part of the same initiative, yoga+meditation is a very powerful ally in that fight
Yes, yes, YES!!
Woow! I really enjoyed reading this. Learned so much from it. Thanks for the share!
quality stuff homie!
bump just found this gem while scattering through old posts
Ahh. Yeah definitely adding this one to the "Best Of".