Allowing Girls to Feel Completely Comfortable.... Kind Of
So last night I had an interesting experience - it was probably the first time I really felt like I could say or do anything around a girl (in this case there were actually two) while simaltaneously sexually escalating.
It's like the whole thing becomes this "game" where you're like a little kid again
Imagine being "one of the girls"... but also fucking the shit out of one of the girls... It's like you're the gay best friend that they can do ANYTHING in front of - but you're simaltaneously fucking the shit out of one of the girls.
So yeah, it was interesting cause I made them feel comfortable but also was a man - like I remember at one moment, they were dancing or doin some ridiculous shit and like showing me their asses and drinking
And I was just like leaning up against the fridge with my feet against the opposite wall, takin swigs out of a bottle of jameson, and one of the girls just looks at me and goes, "God your SUCH a MAN" lol but I was simaltaneously just fuckin round with them
Honestly guys - I don't really know what I'm talkin bout right now, just tryna reflect on, what was for me, a first - the result is the same result I've had many other times but the process of getting there was different - more fun and more relaxed and "playful"
Hahahaha. Dat Jameson doe.
That's what it's about, man. Being able to not take this shit so seriously and just be you, while simultaneously leading that shit towards sex.
Tough to be there though as I find I don't have that "closer" mentality when I'm just chilling out and having fun with the girl. It's like a pendulum where you gotta find the right sweet spot of being YOU and having fun, while at the same time not getting so wrapped up in the fun that you don't close. Mind you this is when I'm out and shit at the clubs/bars. Personally I think I should lean a little more towards "closing" now because I have a lot of fucking fun when I go out. Fun to the point where it's just infectious.
Yeah, I was more referring to using that "fun" as a its own form of escalation.
Like playfully escalating - basically, the way I see it, I could have treated a girl I put in the friendzone in the same way I was treating these girls
There's an AWESOME AWESOME porn guy who I've started to actually try and emulate when I'm back at a girls place or wtvr... it's pretty ridiculous but I will watch this guys porn and just pay attention to what he's doing..
It's a reality porn and the dude is just like SUPER on point. Been studying him for a couple months now
Who's this porn guy
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=100256718
That's one of his videos but he has a fuckton of them. Honestly, I don't even know if it's actually real (I highly suspect it is) but regardless the guy has an amazing bedroom demeaner. Far better than the less realistic porno's out there
RETARDED HAHAHAHA!
Ahh yes netvideogirls is that motherfuckin shit.
Best porno ever. So hawt.
Yup
never sat through an ENTIRE porno before that one. jerked off in one hand, wrote notes on my iphone in the other. winning!
What's this book you're reading BG? is it related to what this dude chats on in the beginning?
He always seems to say shit like: This shits easy guys using NLP with embedded commands you can get the girl to do anything, by leaving silence in between exchanges blah blah blah"
What's this book you're reading BG? is it related to what this dude chats on in the beginning?He always seems to say shit like: This shits easy guys using NLP with embedded commands you can get the girl to do anything, by leaving silence in between exchanges blah blah blah"
I have no clue what you're talking about.
what book are you referring to?
What guy are you referring to? Nobody in that porno is talkin bout nlp i dont think lol?
And yeah, I mean, I've heard from guys who DO use nlp, that I speak as if I know NLP but I have no clue what that shit is lol
yo BG have you tried applying what porno dude does infield?
like his comfort building skills are terrific, dude makes himself out to be a child in a candy store when he's with a girl - so they reciprocate the same emotions.
YES
Read some of my most recent posts - the lay report I have with that model bisch, was exactly like that
Also - my most recent lay report with my coworker is like that (I even got some really fun videos out of that one) - and I've NEVER been able to do the whole "video" thing before
The whole "kid in a candy-store" thing is something that has like ABSOLUTELY become more noticable in my closing game, and in my escalation as a whole - I'm doing it less and less, as this like robotic thing and more and more becuase I feel horny and giddy all at the same time and just wanna slap dat ass or play around with it - I think part of the process is uncrossing the wires of shame and sexuality.... these two wires get crossed in a lot of men (at least i know it happened in me) and the more we can separate the two - the more you'll start to just ENJOY your sexuality and expressing it.
I'm nowhere near where I want to be with this - but it's the direction I want to go and becuase I can't watch manwhore in the bedroom, this porn guy is the next best thing...
So yeah - I've ABSOLUTELY been applying this shit, like legitimately see it happening within me - but like everything it's VERY VERY slow, so while I see changes, I also recognize that it's not gonna happen instantly
I also have focused on vocal tonalitty in the bedroom and in general with chicks a LIL more than I used to, because I thought he rocks that pretty well
Honestly, for me, and I'm gonna go ahead and assume that there are at least SOME dudes who deal with the same issue-
I think the reason a lot of guys struggle with this shit, is because there is this issue in society where it becomes very very very easy for men to coorelate sexuality with shame, on a subconscious level - like it's the rare guy, whose able to internalize and truly believe that his dick is a gift to women (aka: Manwhroe) - there are plenty of guys who have this belief and I can promise you that each one of them, is boning down plenty of hotties
So we coorlate shame and sexuality, and we get into this headspace where we subconsciously believe that our dick is evil - or that in some way we are like "harming" a woman by fucking her or by being sexual with her...
But if we can address that part of our subconscious, and bring it to the surface and walk through some of those early memories, with our ADULT mind, as opposed to the child-like mind that we initiially had when we first dealt with these situations..... if we can go back in our own mind, and have the acceptance, presence and compassion to sit there and focus on some of those VERY EARLY memories, where perhaps some of this stufff began, and address it with our current mind and basically understand that it's all bullshit - like most of the stuff society tells us about sexuality is FUCKING BULLSHIT.... if we can consciously address this stuff, then we can slowly uncross some of the wires and begin the process towards not only, not being ashamed of our dick, or feeling like it's some sort of evil weapon or some weird crap.... but actually move past that and towards having the active belief that our dick is a GIFT.......
THATS where "natural" closing game comes from - the deep and unconflicted belief and understanding that your dick is a gift to women.
Book you mentioned in another thread about neuroscience or behavioural psychology or summin. I love learning more about those fields
if we can consciously address this stuff, then we can slowly uncross some of the wires and begin the process towards not only, not being ashamed of our dick, or feeling like it's some sort of evil weapon or some weird crap.... but actually move past that and towards having the active belief that our dick is a GIFT.......
The first time I was ever exposed to pickup was reading one of Style's books and he put a story in it about how he sexed up some scraggly looking mom cuz he felt sorry for her and then the next time he saw her she looked wonderful and got herself sorted out. And he talks about realizing that he is the "Angel of Fuck."
Now that I think about it. I watched almost all the girls I've had sex with kindof come alive afterward too. One was a single mom working a BS medical assistant job, she was complaining about. After I banged her she went crazy and got a job that she absolutely loves at a jewelry store, she decided to pay off all her debts the way that I told her.